Forgiving.

[Smowball]

Over a long girly lunch yesterday we got around to chatting about partners/hubbies as per usual! We were asking each other what we would never ever forgive them for doing. All very different answers, but most of us had a specific thing that we just could not forgive.

So is there anything specific that you ladies(and men!) just wouldnt be able to forgive, or would it entirely depend on the circumstances?

[ummmm]

My mate had an affair and I don't blame him. He wasn't just denied sex but denied all affection. What it all boiled down to...he just wanted a cuddle. His wife didn't want him but wanted the lifestyle. He left in the end.

[murraymints]

infidelity, violence and cruelty to kids and animals...and using my toothbrush...and leaving soggy tea bags on worktop..and not flushing the loo...and hanging coats on newell...and eating the last Jaffa cake..and.....

[NOX]

The only thing I could never forgive is abuse of children or the vulnerable anything else is on a case by case basis including things like murder.

[jno]

you're a tolerant man, Nox. I think if my OH murdered me I'd be quite cross.

[Duncer]

NOX, I'm guessing, as a fellow Ulsterman, that you refer to moving on and letting things progress in a spirit of peace and co-operation, and I'm all for that, but I still find it incredibly hard to truly forgive murder. I know people did things they normally wouldn't have, myself included but, much as I can put plenty of things behind me, that one remains difficult. Time has certainly diminished the impact and the raw, visceral emotions, but it can never be truly erased.

[Wharton]

Supporting Rangers or Linfield
Good morning Duncer

[NOX]

Well actually Duncer, much as I agree with you about political reconciliation etc I was talking in this instance personally about what a partner could or could not do. Let's face it some people are more of a loss to the world than others, and if a partner of mine killed someone in self defence or under a diminished responsibility situation then I could deal with that with relative ease. Hurting a child or a bullying a vulnerable person and I probably couldn't.

[nannybooby]

with you there 2sp, hope life is better now for you xxxx

[Duncer]

"Supporting Rangers or Linfield"


Now, now Wharton, you can go off some people very quickly you know?


NOX, sorry, I've picked you up wrongly. I have absolutely no problem with a partner killing someone in self-defence or in other extraneous circumstances, in fact I would hope that she would. I work with people who would be no great loss to the world on a regular basis and could easily forgive my other half if she terminated someone who was trying to rape/assault her. Forgiveness wouldn't even come into it.

I suspect the families might be less forgiving though?