Forgiving.

[Smowball]

Over a long girly lunch yesterday we got around to chatting about partners/hubbies as per usual! We were asking each other what we would never ever forgive them for doing. All very different answers, but most of us had a specific thing that we just could not forgive.

So is there anything specific that you ladies(and men!) just wouldnt be able to forgive, or would it entirely depend on the circumstances?

[Duncer]

White lies are vastly underrated, Duncer.

I was thinking in terms of using them to preserve dignity, protect feelings, and avoid hurt, not to be wilfully perjured.

[Smowball]

very true. Lying could be about how much they have spent, how many pints they really had in the pub, silly things.

[Duncer]

As if we would lie about that - we just forget?

[Smowball]

lol.

[2sp_]

I totally agree with you Duncer.

I meant that people underrate the value of a white lie to protect others.

[daffy654]

Violence towards my son and cheating are the main things I couldn't forgive.

[cubic999]

I'm gonna go with 'cheating' that is my final answer,

[craft1948]

Not standing your round............................

[Duncer]

Want to phone a friend?

[EvianBaby]

I could forgive cheating and lying, depending on the circumstances.

If a guy ever out one hair of mine out of place through violence he'd be gone. No excuse can cut it.

[Traci66]

Cheating and violence, there is no way I could or would forgive either.

[emmie]

same as Traci.

[LoftyLottie]

Cheating or violence to either humans or animals

[Prudie]

Violence definitely, certain crimes and definitely any sexual interest in children.
Cheating is easy to say you wouldn't forgive if you've not experienced it. Sometimes you love someone so much that cheating can be brushed under the carpet to save the relationship.

[emmie]

Prudie, you would always be wondering if they will do it again. And the trust that you have has been blown into smithereens.

[Prudie]

I know em (sadly) but it's not unknown to live with that in order to keep hold of the cheating partner.

[Sqad]

em

\\\ And the trust that you have has been blown into smithereens.\\

No, not necessarily. There are pluses and minuses to ANY marriage and infidelity is a human failing that we all have to face at certain times.

When this happens, then one has to do one's sums and ask oneself if this "infidelity" can be overlooked. If the answer is that one will be simmering with resentment for the rest of the marriage, then fine.....end it.
if this was the case, then very few marriages would survive.

[rockyracoon]

My friend and her husband split up a few years ago after he cheated on her, they got back together after a few months apart and their marriage is stronger now than it was before. She will admit that it took a while to trust him again but she does now and they are happy. Some couples can make it work after, some can't, just depends on the people.

[ummmm]

I know I wouldn't forgive cheating.