do you?

[gossipgirl]

i posted a link on here basically saying how i lost my temper the other night and smacked my son { may i add it was on the hand} and ive now been accused by some ****** of ''beating'' him! have any of you ever smacked your child for being naughty? have any of you been smacked as a child?

[warpig3]

Personally, I had the living daylights beaten out of me as a child as did my brother and sister! In comparison to my childhood, a smack on the hand would not have been termed as a 'beating'!

[gossipgirl]

thank you thats exactly what i said, there is a big difference between a smack and a beating!

[chrisda]

Sometimes it is the only way, not killing them but just enough to let them know they are wrong, the kids today are spoilt you can take everything off them but that doesnt matter they know they will get them back.
I was one of three boys my dad worked shiftwork and we were always smacked for making a noise when he was in bed, try keeping three boys quiet.

[kira000]

I have no kids, but i was given the very occassional smack when i was a kid.

Probably 3 times ever, and not a belter, just a short sharp shock. I seems to recall the shock of it happening was worse than any actual pain.

From what i remember, i was being particularly vile on at least one one of these occassions - mum caught me cutting the bottom 2 inches off all of my dads ties in a temper tantrum and was wielding that pair of scissors here and there. I reckon i probably deserved that one!

[cazzz1975]

I have been smacked as a child, it has not affected me and I wouldnt call it a beating!? I dont and have never smacked my children and they are great kids who are not naughty or out of control

[puddicat]

yes i was smacked, and a stick was used on my legs by my father!!

[redcrx]

This is what you said and possibly why someone said you were beating your child "I ,yelled,shouted, cried and even smacked him for doing it and out of temper i even told him that i was beginning to hate him {which i know i should never had said} "

yes ive been smacked and yes i have smacked my eldest a handful of times. I am not against smacking as such, but i dont do it in temper, thats a loss of control.

[MWB]

NZ has an anti-smacking law now.

[warpig3]

I knew I had asked a similar question before. If you are really bored gossipgirl you can trawl through this:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion315114-5.html

[chrisda]

I hit my 10 year old son across the head once accidently I was knocking a balloon out of the way and caught him good style right across his face, I felt terrible it knocked the stuffing out of him but boy did I feel guilty.
Never again

[no-knowledge]

i just strangle mine in the style of Homer and Bart.

[MWB]

puddicat. That stick you're on about?

If I threw it, would you go away?

[ummmm]

I'd be more concerned about the damage you can do by telling your child you hate them.


I've smacked mine on occasions but I wouldn't dream of saying something like that to them.

I hope you've apologised to him???

[cove]

you sounded as though you were in a terrible rage. it's hardly likely that someone in such a rage will likely smack on the hand. what a horrible thing to say to a child - 'you hate them' poor child, you may have scarred him for life. you're a mean mother.

[cove]

meant to say "lightly' smack .

[warpig3]

Right...... Lets get things in perspective.........

We all have to agree to disagree. There are different ways to discipline children, certainly beating them is not the way to go, (certainly not in my opinion).

Sometimes things get out of hand, gossipgirl smacked her child on the hand, that is no biggie in my experience, it does not relate to a beating.

However, that said, for those of you who are parents, please remember how you have been tested by your children, it is not an easy roll and you have to 'live and learn'. That is the parental 'job'.

[gossipgirl]

i regretted saying that as soon as i said it and apoplogised to him and explained that i losty my temper and should never of said that, i also explained that i loved him and always will with lots of hugs and kisses. thank you war pig for saying that by being parents you live and learn and how your children test you as parents. Im not making excuces for what i did but im not a bad mother like some have suggested.

[NoMercy]

My mum once gave me a hiding with a plastic spatula.