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Lack Of Intimacy
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Is talking to your partner about lack of intimacy in a relationship a strategy that produces a solution?
Or is it like trying to talk someone into liking cabbage?
Or is it like trying to talk someone into liking cabbage?
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I can understand both sides of what is being said here as people are talking from personal experience. I guess its not a deal breaker for me, maybe 15 years ago it would've been a bigger problem with more testosterone running around my system!
I just think talking may create a false situation whereby intimacy is there in a contrived way, but will only be short lived, a token effort.
I just think talking may create a false situation whereby intimacy is there in a contrived way, but will only be short lived, a token effort.
' a bit more info would be useful...if its not to taboo.. '
I remember when those 50 shades books came out and she literally bought the trilogy and couldn't put them down. got a bit of action off the back of that, but not deluded enough to believe it was anything other the books putting her in the mood rather than my sexual magnetism! lol!
I remember when those 50 shades books came out and she literally bought the trilogy and couldn't put them down. got a bit of action off the back of that, but not deluded enough to believe it was anything other the books putting her in the mood rather than my sexual magnetism! lol!
'Or it might make her buck up a bit and realise that there are two of you in this marriage not just her.. '
that's the trouble nailit, it need to come from her own free will and desire, not the result of feeling threatened into it. That's only short lived, after a few times we'll be back to 6 month gaps between intimacy.
that's the trouble nailit, it need to come from her own free will and desire, not the result of feeling threatened into it. That's only short lived, after a few times we'll be back to 6 month gaps between intimacy.
Why do you think massage parlours, prostitution, escort agencies and infidelity are flourishing? Because one of the "partners", usually the male, but not always has got bored with sex. Very simple really.
What is the answer? if this asexual life is not a big deal, then there is no problem, but if sex is important to the male/female then the status quo cannot be allowed to continue.
What can be done to alleviate the situation?
Discussing the problem is the adult way forward, the sensible way forward but unfortunately the results are disappointing and one just gives up.
Marriage counselling........my gut feeling based on the encyclopedia of life is that success rates are equally low.......SO
Prostitution, escort agencies, massage parlours, mistresses and maybe masturbation..........all flourishing. The French and Greeks in particular have already accepted this solution has have many other countries.......but not the Brits.
So.....try and talk it over.......but "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
What is the answer? if this asexual life is not a big deal, then there is no problem, but if sex is important to the male/female then the status quo cannot be allowed to continue.
What can be done to alleviate the situation?
Discussing the problem is the adult way forward, the sensible way forward but unfortunately the results are disappointing and one just gives up.
Marriage counselling........my gut feeling based on the encyclopedia of life is that success rates are equally low.......SO
Prostitution, escort agencies, massage parlours, mistresses and maybe masturbation..........all flourishing. The French and Greeks in particular have already accepted this solution has have many other countries.......but not the Brits.
So.....try and talk it over.......but "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
