Tell me about your Dad.........

[Jeza]

Loving, caring, compassionate

My Dad was the most selfish person I have ever known. Self first, self last, any over self again. He had 4 kids. He shouldn't have had any. No time for any of them. When he came home from work we were sent to the kitchen so he could 'chill out'. Then it was out of the kitchen so he could listen to his Grundig. When he died I'm sure I saw a look of relief on Mums face.

[Ann]

Oh thats really sad Jeza.

[elliemay1]

I can see that you are bitter and prob for good reasons but at least he gave you life and you can be all the things that he wasn't. Live your life to the full and don't waste time looking back.

[tonyav]

My dad was a bullying wife / child beater, who spent most of his time and money up the bloody pub.Mom divorced him when I was 11, best day of my life.

[starone]

Yes it is sad. My dad was lovely. He was a gambler and if he had any money it would soon disappear so my mother always looked after that side of things. She was a very good manager of money. She knew what he liked and made sure he didn't go over the top. But he loved all of us and although there was not much money to spare he made sure the children never suffered. I know that I would have a good meal at school while they had corned beef sandwiches with 2 ounces of corned beef between them. No benefits in those days.

[Jeza]

I'm not bitter ellie, I just made sure I didn't marry a man like him.

Tony, I understand that. My mum was too fearful of him to do the same.

[nungate]

I'm sorry to hear you had a bad relationship with your Dad Jeza. My Dad died when I was in my early 20's over 30 years ago and I still miss him. We had a great relationship, and quite frankly I've haven't had a decent argument since he died. He played with us, got us to eat our veggies by giving them silly names like "slumgullion" helped us by going over our times tables and making up spelling games and generally giving me and my brother a great time. I just wish he was here to enjoy his grandchildren and his great granddaughters.

[Jeza]

I didn't have a bad relationship with him as a child. It was only when i grew up that I realised what a manipulative person he was.

[paddywak]

He was a good guy, I had a spell as a teenager when we were always arguing, I think that's fairly normal, but as I got older we became very close as I did with my mum and sisters. Dad passed 30 years ago and mum 5 years later and my sisters and I still miss then.

[shaneystar2]

That is sad .
I always think myself lucky when I see that people haven't had good relationships with their parents .
My Dad was lovely .He died aged 69 forty years ago and I still miss him .
He always used to wait up for me to come home from the razzle dazzle and smoothed things over with Mum in the morning :)

[dotty.]

My Dad was perfect in everyway and exactly that way with everyone who ever met him. A farmer's son who learnt to plough a field behind a horse when he was 10 and learnt to play the piano and ballroom dance before he was 15. He was a wonderful sequence dancer and knew what could grow in any field. He was a sidesman at Church and managed a youth football team, taught all of us how to ride a horse, shoot his shotgun, skin a rabbit, how to put dubbin on our football/hockey boots, taught us to drive, let us drive his tractor when we were 12, brought us all red soil back from Monument Valley and then left us suddenly. Wish I was more like him,

[askyourgran]

My dad was lovely, he was quiet and homely, tipped up his wage every weekend and never one to go out every night and drink like my FIL did. He could be strict but he watched out for us. Did the painting and decorating in the house with my Mum keeping it clean and tidy. He was good-looking too, I think I was lucky to have a dad like that, some of my friends' dads were horrendous.

[sandyRoe]

It's good to see so many people have fond memories of their fathers. It must leave a real, solid, foundation in their lives.
Mine was of the Jeza variety. He walked out leaving three primary school aged children and mother to survive on a National Assistance Board handout.

[Sparkles62]

My Dad was lovely. always had time for us, he started, and encouraged my love of reading and puzzles, i had a very happy childhood, not much money, but plenty of love. Sorry about your Dad, but what was your Mum like? did she make up for your Dads shortcomings. X

[Jeza]

I envy you Dotty.

[erin-x]

My Dad is certainly one of a kind. He's very caring but struggles to show it which is where we are mostly alike. Actually, my Mum says that we are two peas in a pod! Three words most people would use to describe him would be... eccentric, hilarious and grouchy. He's always been very popular and I anywhere I go I always seem to get, "Oh! You're so and so's daughter!"... Which is always a good thing because everyone loves him :-)


I also inherited my varied taste in music from him... Something I am very grateful for :-)

[NoMercy]

Married bachelor. 3 Motorbikes. 1 Volvo Estate. One gun cabinet, fully stocked.

[sandyRoe]

You're not Viv Stanshall's daughter, are you?

[vodkancoke]

I love my Dad. I am a real daddy's girl. He is very affectionate and loving and I couldn't be without him. He is 6'4" and known as the Gentle Giant. He isn't a drinker or a gambler. He loves being around people and he tells us many times a day how much he loves us. I used to hate that as a teenager but I love it now. He also gives the best cuddles! I felt very lucky growing up, having the parents I do.
How was your Mum Jeza?

[NoMercy]

Not quite, Sandy.

[paddywak]

Dad was well known in the village and people who knew him often say the always remember him walking about with his dog, a miniature poodle and a hoard of grandkids one of my nephews the eldest grandson who was really close to dad flatly refused to go to the funeral. He told me years later that even though he knew he was dead as long as he'd not seen him buried he could think that he'd only "gone away for a while" and he could handle that easier then thinking he was never going to see him again.