I think part of growing up is learning what suits you, and the accepting that it might not suit everyone else.
You are - quite reasonably - looking at this relationship from your own perspective, and that may be, and it sound like it is, completely different from that of the people involved.
Life is about taking what comes along, accepting what you want, and steering round what you don't want, and as I said, accepting that what other people want is often different, but none the worse for that.