Devastated

[rockyracoon]

Had a call last night to tell us that my SIL has terminal cancer, she was feeling unwell a couple of weeks ago so went to hospital for tests, they've given her 2 weeks to live! She's only in her late 40's.

I want to send a card but really don't know what to say in it or even if it's appropriate to send anything. OH is in a daze and just can't get his head round it :(

[Sqad]

What sort of card can you send someone with terminal cancer?

I would leave well alone.

[kvalidir]

OMG Rocky that;s horrible. I don't know about sending a card tbh, but I would either go and see her or at least call her, she must be in so much shock and so frightened I think that would be welcomed.

[ummmm]

xxx

It's devastating. I hope you're ok x

[Georgiesmum]

If i had to send her a card id get one that says "thinking of you" and id write inside "Just a card to say im thinking of you at this difficult time" Lots of love from.........

[woofgang]

Go and see her..or if you can't get there, write or phone. hug her, listen to her, ask if there is anything practical you can do.

[rockyracoon]

Sqad, I know, but I feel I should acknowledge it somehow, I really don't know want to do. She's in hospital at the moment so I can't ring her and can't go out there as it's too far, OH will hopefully try to fly out one day next week.

[Mamyalynne]

Definitely time for a visit if possible as said - the speed of this is bound to have sent shock through everyone.

Talking and being there is the best you can do.

Sad news.

[Georgiesmum]

Would you be able to call and see her and take her some lovely flowers and then ask her how she is. She may feel like talking. , may not. It depends how close she lives to you.

[Georgiesmum]

Great minds think alike Mamya! xxx

[Mamyalynne]

Crossed posts - I see your dilemma then if she is far away and in Hospital.

[SlackAlice]

I wouldn't send a card, I'd go for a visit and some ((hugging)). She will need loads of sensible and strong loving support.

I'm a big soft hearted guy in reality but I'd hide the tears away from her and try to help in anyway I could.

[Georgiesmum]

When i lost my husband six years ago, i found it comforting to know that others were thinking of me.

[rockyracoon]

Last week we knew she had liver cancer but the docs seemed positive, then boom, 2 weeks. They said if they can get some liver function they may give here chemo in the hope it'll give her a few more weeks, but it sounds like it's a long shot.

[Mamyalynne]

I shall backtrack a bit then.

If your letter will get there before your husband's visit, then write a chatty letter - not too morbid but full of concern, tell her how much you care and how you are thinking of her.

[kvalidir]

Just a thought-she's likely to have a bedside phone in hospital- if you ring the ward they will have a word with her and ask her if its okay to pass on the number. My 'grandfather' has been in and out of hospital fr the last year or so and they just seem to have those beside phones TV things as standard on all the beds. xxx

[NoMercy]

So sad for you xx

[maggiebee]

So sorry to hear your news rocky. Sounds like you can't visit, so maybe a "thinking of you" card would be appropriate. Very difficult time for all.

[tamborine]

Send a loving card with heartfelt words of hope & cheer. Sprinkle card with perfume for her to enjoy. Send card now!

[jennyjoan]

Sorry to hear of your very sad news. At this time I personally don't think sending a card would be appropriate as your SIL will naturally be in shock and also her mind would be in a turmoil. JJCon

[pixie373]

What a horrible shock. Obviously, if you can visit or phone, do. It's hard to know what to say on a card, but "thinking of you" and seeing if there is anything she wants doing, might help. If it were me, i would want to be writing messages for my children, just in case and obviously send her lots of love.