Spoke to dad last night and I’m shocked at how feeble he sounds.
Also, he appears to have undergone a personality change, there is no longer a filter there and he pretty much says what he wants about anyone.
My gentle father has turned into a teenager, my poor stepmother.
Sorry about all this. Personality change goes along with diagnosis as well as kidney infection as mentioned before. Distressing remarks are often said. Try to remember that your dad, as you knew him, is still in there. All you can do really is support your stepmom.
Here's a quandary Calico - I have several siblings none of which have talked to my father and I since he married my Stepmother 10ish years ago - he is adamant that they are not told he is ill or dead until after his funeral!
Its a tough one
Must be hard for you RR. Not a lot you can do except be there for him and your stepmother. Neither of my brothers had seen my father in at least 10 years before he died and I've always regretted letting them know when the funeral was. It was a complete farce them being there. If you can bear it, follow your dear dad's wishes. Big hugs coming your way x
Sorry to hear your bad news about your dad, sad times for you all. With regards to your siblings, I wouldn’t tell them - I had to do the same when himself was in ICU.
Thanks all, I will of course abide by his wishes - I just feel sorry for SM as she will get the grief when they find out!! Money grabbing scumbags!
Council have come back and said if he hits all the boxes they will fit a shower room in 6 months!!!