Am just wondering to myself - would I get this compassion that he gets - he needs to be kicked to the kerb as the American would say. No gratification - all demands demands demands -
I bought him a microwave about 6 months ago - it is now broken (any wonder) - is asking me for a receipt - place has gone to death -= sons and partners can no longer cope - so partners have moved out - God I don't blame them.
My mum used to say that you should love your siblings/parents or children but you don't have to like them.
If your brother is as difficult as this all the time I would take a step back from him. Help him if you 'want' to but not because you feel that you should.
I am an atheist sister and love my brother very much but sometimes I could shoot him .........
Wolfie _ I have heard that many times - you should love them but you don't need to like them - can anybody tell me how do you differentiate that.
I call it "ALIENATION" - but he is too ill at the moment - so I wanted to argue a point tonight - but can I - cos next thing he could collapse and die.
No Siree - I have put up with it for nigh on 70 years - don't want that on my conscience now. ~thank you very much
I don't imagine I can comprehend what you are experiencing for one minute,in the situation above I may have made a simple meal and offered it on a tray - not sure what else I would do.
I am glad you are getting someone to come and see him.
If I was in your shoes, I would brief the social worker up - sounds like you need some help here to get on top of this, as a family.....your frustration is fully understandable. Mamya is right that there may be an underlying fear factor here.....
I know I'm poking my nose in here, but you sound desperately unhappy l don't know the back story, has your brother always been cantankerous? My grandad was very meek but got unbearably bad tempered ( but no dementia) as he got older which came to a head when he threatened me with a knife. He was taken into care and it was discovered he had postate cancer and severe kidney infection, both apparently can cause changes of personality. Is it possible he is ill?