How Often Do You Have Sex?

[jd_1984]

This is a serious question which is why I havent put it in Chatterbank, which would likely encourage humorous replies!!
But, as a newly married man I am not sure whether we are being intimate frequntly enough. I realise circumstances will play a huge part in marital relationships but we are probably being intimate around 2-4 times a month (not including kissing and that type of affection)
As a younger man, in less serious and more casual relationships, I was going at it a hell of a lot more. But, I question whether we are in a rut, so soon into married life!!!

[viv38]

Of course not chill (ha ha).

[jw47]

There,s an old saying Its not the quantity but the quality that counts

[cazzz1975]

I have not read all the replies but I think its worth making sure your wife is feeling okay, sometimes women struggle to feel sexy if they are feeling down in themselves or are overworked or stressed, maybe having a date night or a special evening occasionally could make her feel special.

[mrs.chappie]

I haven't read all the thread, but the only opinion that really matters is your wife's. Communication is the key.

[Quizmonkey]

Communicate. If you don't feel it's enough, you should be talking to her, not us! Good, regular, open conversation could solve 99% of all relationship problems, even before they're problems.

[joeluke]

jd......as the saying goes "after you get married the only thing your Mrs blows is your wages"

At 2-4 times a month I'd be looking for it elsewhere

[Sqad]

Joeluke...LOL.

Don't worry....he will.

[EcclesCake]

If only my silly blonde head could spell misogynist......

[Svejk]

cor, are you blond then, eccles?

[robofluff]

Those comments from Joeluke and Sqad look like a mixture of trying to look like alpha males and just stirring the pot. I would wager neither are like that in real life. In all my years at work the men who had that attitude were all talk and no action. seen it all before.

[joeluke]

In all my years at work that's the type of comment from a woman who craves but doesn't get any attention from male colleagues

[EcclesCake]

I can however spell Jerk......off.....er

[scorpiojo]

Lol

[Scarlett]

No one has suggested this but I've certainly found this to be the case- when girls have sex to get their man; they know how happy it makes him and they do this to secure him. Once married, the girl has what she wants (security for her and her child), it's all legal, so sex is not the necessity it once was. I know many girls who have sex because they want a relationship- and these men they are having sex with have no intention on committing to them because they are already getting what they want! It's rather old fashioned and Soldier Soldier but still so often the case. Perhaps your wife has settled now she is married and doesn't feel she has to try to 'keep you' any more?

[ShouXing]

I cant' remember!!

[cupid04]

Not as often as I'd like to:-)