Would you not want to go either?

[ChocolatChip]

Saturday is my birthday, and I had organised with my friends to go to a couple of clubs in birmingham. And they all said that they would come, it would be fun, and that I should organise it.
Well I did, and invited about 30 people.
Now, they've decided that they can't make it, and they have other birthdays to go to. And theres about 4 people who've said they're still coming (including me and my partner)
I just don't feel like going, I don't want to see anyone, I'd rather stay with my family and my husband to be, because at least I can rely on them.
Would you want to go?

[Bbbananas]

Down from 30 to 4 is a bit of a blow to your ego. I must say, I'd be a bit hurt.
Stay with your family Chip and ignore the partypoopers. Have a party of your own with your loved ones. xxxx

[tonyav]

go and have a good time down on Broad Street, And forget about those that didn't come.

[Ankou]

30 peoploe is a bit execssive for a night out on the tow isnit ?
i usually max it at 4 - 6.

perhaps you were being a bit optimistic.

[ChocolatChip]

Thanks sallabananas, it's looking more and more tempting the more I think about it.
The stupid thing is, is that this happens every single year. I get more new friends, who I think I can rely on. And the same thing happens again.
I once had a birthday party when I was about 15 and only one person turned up.
You'd think I'd be used to the disappointment.

[ChocolatChip]

Ankou, depends on who's birthday it is I guess.
I have plenty of friends who have 20-30 people who go out together.

[4getmenot]

I wouldnt want to if that many had dropped out. I'd go for a meal or something instead

[ChocolatChip]

for birthdays I mean.

[Ankou]

perhaps you should be more selective about the quality of your friends, rather than accumulation and quantification. they just sound like fb friends, rather than real friends.

[ummmm]

This happens every year?

You need a different set of friends.

[ChocolatChip]

Maybe, but there was just several of them I was really close to, I went away on holiday with two of them only a few months ago.
I was just so surprised. I guess I probably do to much, and care for people to much. And expect the same in return.

[Bbbananas]

Yeah - sounds like you have a lot of acquaintances or casual friends - but it's your true reliable friends who are the most important - those that don't just come and go with the weather. Go for quality rather than quantity.

It's probably not a problem with you as such - just that often people say yes initially to a suggestion, then back out when the time gets nearer, for various reasons. don't let it spoil your birthday.

[ChocolatChip]

Ummmm. That's the problem, I have changed friends so many times. Mostly because they get new friends who don't like me.
I can't help it, there's evidently something wrong with me if everyone dislikes me that much.

[Ankou]

if you continually change friends, then it is to be expected i guess. friendship is reciprocal.

sometimes we have to just put up with people we don't like - some people marry them ! if you happily give up friends because they associate with someone you don't like then its par for the course that they would perhaps avoid meeting you on such occasions if they are already out with someone who you might not like.

[China Doll]

Just go for dinner instead and enjoy the company of those two people and your partner who value you highly. Stop focusing on the others that didn't. I'd also hate to go out with thirty of my friends at any given time as I wouldn't be able to spend any quality time with any of them. Just enjoy what you do have.

[ChocolatChip]

Ankou.
I\'d like to point out that I have never given up on any friends, they have given up on me, moved on found someone else, and stopped speaking to me, no matter how hard I try.
I am told almost everyday what a kind, thoughtful and selfless person I am.
I have always had this problem, I had best friends until I was about 15, but then they found new friends, and they bullied me, beat me up and mentally tortured me. So since then, I\'ve tried making new friends, and I do. And as I said, I thought that a lot of these people were close friends.

[Sachs]

Hi Choc,
please go out & enjoy your birthday with the two others that still want to! Dont let them down like the others have you x

[cazzz1975]

hi choc, its your special day, do what you want to do and stuff everyone!!!!

[Ankou]

to be honest choc, staying in with the family and your beloved would appeal to me far more than frogmarching around the city centre trying to keep a gang of people together, as said by others above really.