Wrong to sleep with your ex?

[sarah-london]

Hey everyone,

Just wanted some advice from people that don't kow me personally & therefore can't have an opinion on me or my ex if that makes sense?

I split with my ex a while back & since then we have remained friends but recently again we have started sleeping together again. My b/f split with me. We always shared a very active & fulfilling sex life. I NEVER instigate contact with him but more recently he's been calling me once a week....saying he really wants to see me etc etc. Thing is I often go cos a) I wanna see him as we are still mates & b)cos I do actually want sex with him.

Thing is though this just keeps going on & on & I don't know what to do anymore?? Why does he keep coming back? Why does he keep calling me? Often when he rings he will want to chat about 'his stuff'.....like I know drugs is a problem etc etc. Sometimes he calls in a right state. Nevertheless 9 times out of 10 we will have sex when we meet.

Has anyone else been in this situation?? Am I being a moron for keep giving into him? Deep deep down I do still love him & I think that's one of the reasons I hang in on there.

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr how frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Velvetee]

It sounds to me, as though you have become his favourite Booty Call. He obviously likes you as a person, seeing as you were in a relationship previously, but he's now found it works well for him with you, purely for sex.

Where you are going wrong and will probably end up getting hurt, is that you're giving into him wanting to see you, in the hope that it means more than sex to him, it obviously means more to you.

If you're not happy to be just a F**k Buddy, then you should stop what you are doing or at the very least try to find out what it is he wants.

[sqad617]

You need and enjoy sex with him.
He needs and enjoys sex with you.

terambulan.....nothing wrong in being a nymphomaniac.

There may be a price to pay.......jump that hurdle when you come to it.

[CrazyCathy]

If you continue to see him I don't see how you are going to move on and find someone else. If you can accept it will never be any more then i guess it is ok but if you want more then I'd end it now.

[lizzydrippin]

If you end this arrangement with your ex then I'll eat my hat! You'll carry on regardless until the outcome arrives! Enjoy it while it lasts but expect nothing in the way of a renewed relationship and you won't be hurt if it doesn't happen. I must say though girl that if he does have drug problems you may well be better off without him as a boyfriend at present. All the best anyway sarah x

[BRIZE]

if u was my ex and u kept offering it up , i wud luv it, sex with no commitment. u cud certainly keep that going. seriously, hes in your head,
and will stay there all the time u are putting out x