homosexuality.

[wildwood]

I want to become more tolerant to gay's private lives. Can you help?

We have over the years become fairly friendly with a gay male couple who used to live next door, they make us laugh and are such a caring pair. We also have a gay niece so we are no strangers to it.

I am well aware that homosexuality is first and foremost an attraction to the same sex for companionship and comfort. Eventually though, it comes to sexual activity which is where my understanding falls down.

Although I don't make a song'n'dance about it, I honestly can't accept what a male couple get up to in the bedroom is normal. With females it seems to me to be different because of a lack of certain body parts!

I have heard all the 'live and let live' and 'none of your business' stuff but my discomfort with my feeling over this worry me somewhat.

Could we please not have any name calling or nasty remarks as this is how I feel and am baring my soul, hoping I can learn to understand better.

[sherrardk]

Gay ^

[douglas9401]

Enjoy wildwood. :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHG2LJGfEdw

[naomi24]

Wildwood, I'm sorry if I missed the point, but I really can't see what there is for you to 'tolerate'. Homosexuality is not my preference either, but what my gay friends do doesn’t affect me or anyone else so there’s nothing for me to tolerate. Sorry, but I simply don’t understand your reference to tolerance.

[Baldric]

The bottom line is; Are you saying you're homophobic and you're seeking our views to help you understand that and make you more comfortable with it?

[percypineapple]

It appears no one has decried homosexuality on this answer thing. Are we all now of the opinion, live and let live? or are we scared of being attacked for saying we don't agree with homosexuality?? I couldn't care less what they get up to, it's between them,nothing to do with the rest of us. i have done jobs for several male couples, always found them great people. The church is not up to date, science has over ruled, Adam and eve were probably the nearest to start of life as we know it. moral issues don't count anymore, So, answer to the question, get on with life, what they do is their business, they are all gods people, one of them has been born into the wrong body and lucky enough to find someone who accepts that and loves him ( or her). What would you do if a mongol person knocked on your door?? they have the same problem, they look different but have the same feelings and thoughts as non mongol people. When I meet George and nigel in the supermarket, i am pleased to see them, a gay couple, but real nice guys.
Just get on with it, I'm not shy of knowing gay people. and no one else seems to take any notice anyway.
percy.

[woofgang]

wildwood, what precisely is the question that you want answered?

[lcg]

i think people are missing the point here and focussing on miniscule parts of wild's question. firstly, he is tolerant of homosexuality....he has said he if friends with the couple who used to live next door to and of his niece, so obviously he is not homophobic (in the traditional sense of the word anyway). wild - i also think that others here have stated that you should not be fixated on what anyone does in their bedroom....straight, gay or somewhere in the middle (that i find unusual). you are associating male homosexuality and sex in your mind (and again, as others have stated, it is unecessary) and seem a little preoccupied with it....but the reason you can't reconcile it is that basically, it doesn't do it for you! you can't necessarily do both and i think you are overthinking things here. just because you are tolerant does not mean you have to be gung-ho for gay sex! i'm not offended by any of your comments and i'm not straight, btw ;-) enjoy your life, love who you love and stop thinking about people's bedrooms x

[ummmm]

Well Percy, I like to think that homophobia is slowly dying out.

What my friend posted on their FB wall...

http://sphotos-h.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/75240_10151530767777892_234422905_n.jpg

[RATTER15]

ummmm, ^^^ Brilliant!!

[Mamyalynne]

Wildwood, you are asking how you can learn to accept what may be going on behind closed doors. In truth that is something only you can do - just as you likely don't speculate about any non gay friends then you will have to teach yourself to disassociate any thoughts of that nature overall.

[hc4361]

It is true that many heterosexual men cannot bear to see two men even cuddling or kissing on tv.

[RATTER15]

I must admit I dont like seeing men kiss!

[DTCwordfan]

I agree, ratter, just as I wouldn't want ABers, particularly certain ones, climbing up their AB "we are so ever curious" ladders to see what was going on, as they are, at best, on-line voyeurs....

[jno]

I don't much like seeing anybody kiss; snogging in the streets seems unnecessary to me. But I dont' find myself feeling any worse about it if it's two men. (How do you feel about two women?)

I'm not too sure how the point of your question has been missed. My own answer was to the effect that only you can change your own feelings (about anything), but it might help to remind yourself that you don't actually know what goes on in anyone's private life. The demons may all be in your mind.

[ummmm]

I do not understand DT's post at all...

I don't like seeing people snog no matter who they are snogging. Showing affection is fine, but not full on snogs.

[RATTER15]

jno "(How do you feel about two women?) " It should be encouraged, perfectly acceptable behaviour! :-) Can I watch?

[jno]

the question was really aimed at wildwood; but thousands of acres of internet are at your disposal if you want to try it out, Ratter.

[DTCwordfan]

Not that I understood ummmm's either....so...well what can one say?

[Baldric]

Ratter, you'll get us guys a bad name!



Save me a seat

[Mick-Talbot]

DT......what's with the cryptic comments?