Funeral Before You Die?

[Canary42]

Would you like a funeral before you die ?

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Me; NO - just too macabre.

What about you ?

[ummmm]

No - but saying that my dad would have loved his funeral.

I don't think I'd attend one either.

[gingejbee]

No funeral at all for me....I'm having a "direct to crematorium" end.

[bobbs202]

Hell yeah! If there's to be a Wake then I want to be there to hear what folk are saying about me ( lol) how many funerals have people attended where people stand and talk in hushed whispers about the dead person? ( hello,they don't heat you) and it's normally how lovely,how kind, how nice,how funny when in reality ,they weren't , I want to be there to answer back....and party and have fun ,all paid for with my funeral plan ;+)

[bobbs202]

#hear#

[New Judge]

I lost a friend a few years back. He had received a terminal diagnosis and was determined to enjoy his own funeral. So he arranged a wake whilst he was still reasonably fit and invited all the people who would have attended his funeral. It was a great do but probably sadder when it ended (knowing we would not be meeting again) than a funeral is. Still, it's what he wanted and we all had a good time.

[spathiphyllum]

Would it be classed as a funeral if the person is still alive, or more a celebration of life?

In my experience funerals usually consist of some kind of burial or cremation ceremony but I understand that they don't have to.

Would i have a funeral before i died? No.

Would i invite all those i loved and cared about to a shindig if i knew my time was very close to coming? Maybe.

Only one thing is guaranteed in life. That is death.

[Cloverjo]

No, just have a party if you want to get all your friends together. My son’s friend died recently at a very young age. It was lovely to see the old crowd back together. Just so sad that the main man couldn’t be there.

[Rockrose]

We are in the process of planning my fathers whilst he can still communicate - that is heartbreaking enough - thank you

[Sqad]

I have yet come to terms with LGBT yet, so you need to give me time to ponder on a funeral before death.

[ummmm]

Look at it as a goodbye party, Sqad.

[Sqad]

ummmm...LOL....my party days are over...;-)

[Mamyalynne]

he 'Rites of Passage' series hosted by Grayson Perry last year on C4 had a section on death.

Roch Maher, nearing the end of his life after long outlasting his diagnosis wanted to mark his imminent death, it was beautifully arranged and was obviously a great joy and comfort to all involved.

[retrocop]

I detest wakes. My father laid out the local Parish Catholic Priest at his mothers for disrespect during a wake in their front parlour.
Wife and I have updated our wills and requested no funeral.Just have a good drink if they want on their (kids) inheritance.

[jennyjoan]

I think it sad that when a person has died - he/she can never hear the nice things being said about them.

Also this business of the Catholic funerals whereby the dead person is being carried by members of the family (usually men) - called "the lift".

I see the men carrying quite a heavy coffin with nervousness on their faces - probably saying "can I do this".

I was at a funeral last Monday and it took 6 men to give the first lift. I think wheeling out the dead person is good enough.

I know that this is the norm in the Catholic faith but can I say when people died years ago - they were usually skinny and not heavy. Now the majority of people I know are fattish and with the weight of the wooden coffin - it should be done away with. It is too much.

[ludwig]

Attending one's own funeral when you're still alive seems like the ultimate in fishing for compliments.

I get it though, it seems a shame that everyone you know goes to an event, but you can't be there, so I can see why people would want to bring the date forward so they don't have to miss out.

[bobbs202]

Ludwig,I'd put a clause in mine saying "Speak the Truth or be Damned"
Would be very interesting :-)

[hereIam]

jj - I personally think they can hear and see. Too many things have happened since losing my parents for me to discount this.

No, I don't want a funeral before I die, seems a tad bizarre to me !

[nailit]

What would you do for an encore?

[agchristie]

No,I don't wish to undertake such a venture ;-)

[jennyjoan]

HereIam - that'll be a tough one for me to be able to hear when I am dead never mind when I am alive LOL