so I can't use a phrase to describe me in certain circs.....I don't go around saying "hello I am Woofgang, I am cis gender" but in discussions such as this its a useful shorthand....as I was saying.....what naomi seems to be saying is that she doesn't want me to use a phrase that I choose to describe me.....no one else, only me......because she feels that I am then describing her with that phrase. Relax naomi, we are NOTHING alike and I will give you a certificate to that effect if you want one.