So Sad

[pastafreak]

My daughter messaged me earlier. Police knocked down a neighbour's door...she was deceased and had been for awhile. A bit reclusive from what my daughter told me last year.
I think another neighbour had noticed her not being about...or something amiss, and
called police...and police took it seriously.

[Dizmo]

Nice to see that they took it seriously. An internet friend of ours (my OH and I) posted a s****de note online and we rallied together (a group of people online) to get in contact with the police. I was the one to call as we were the only friends that lived in the UK, the rest of her friends were from outside the UK.

We gave them a general location, her phone number, and the city/town that we knew she no longer lived (so they wouldn't waste time). It took them 16 hours to arrive at her house :(

[pastafreak]

Dare I ask...was she ok? If not, so sorry.

[DTCwordfan]

well thank goodness that they did.

see GMEB from this morning for the dreadful story in my old residence/country estate where I last was - appalling that this is and it turns out that the BF concerned had serious form...though the local Falmouth plods are not saying what, other than it isn't powdery substances.... she, the offical tenant, did need an ambulance up to the hossie, having got herself into Falmouth driving her own car.

[Dizmo]

Pastafreak, I'm afraid not. We gave instructions to the ambulance service that she'd needed to be prussian blue (medication) as a matter of urgency (we tried everything we could), however it was too late. It got passed between two different police forces more than once.

I then had to have a very difficult conversation with her mother, who emailed me about a week later. She was trans and was subject to a lot of hate and her parents didn't support her. It's an awful price to pay. They couldn't handle losing their son (that's how they felt about it), however some time after they came to realise that it would have been less painful to lose a son and gain a daughter, instead of losing their child altogether.

I'm really glad that the police took your daughter's neighbour's case seriously, it's awful when people die alone, or at least I think it is.

[pastafreak]

Yes DT, I did see that. Things need to reach crisis point and are still not taken seriously.

I'm so sorry Diz...and sorry your friend felt SO alone.

It seems it's often women who die like my daughter's neighbour...I've read of several cases recently.

[Dizmo]

Thanks. We dedicated a couple of hours on air (we're both radio DJ's, it's how we met) for her and so many people sent in poems and nice words. It wasn't easy to do, without getting really choked up/upset. I'm glad we did it, I think it's the least she deserved. There was supposed to be a police inquiry, I'm not sure if it ever happened.

The police issue us with a gag order for 7 days, which was difficult as we were the point of contact for the police and about 300 people online. We were not allowed to tell anyone that she had passed away, not until they had ruled it out as a s***ide and had made contact with her parents. It is the longest week I think I've ever experienced.

[barry1010]

Sorry to interrupt but why are there asterisks in that word?

[pastafreak]

I wondered that too...unless Diz typed it that way.

[Canary42]

Possibly because the Coroner hasn't confirmed it yet.

[gness]

It's so sad to die alone, Pasta. We have had two very recently in Ireland. One a couple and one a man. All had been very reclusive but the one that puzzled me was the man who had been dead for twenty years before he was found. The house had been boarded up years ago. The family who lived a good way away did come once to see if they could speak to him but, finding the house boarded up, just left.

[barry1010]

Recently the sad death of a young woman has been widely reported in the newspapers, body in flat for around 4 years. I suppose years ago such incidents were reported in the local press so we didn't hear about so many.

Why would a patient need Prussian blue?

[pastafreak]

I recently read of a woman not found for 3 years. Social services didn't even bother to check on her.
My daughter said this lady had some mental health issues, and usually was not seen much in the winter. It's so easy to lose track of people when you don't expect to see them about much.

[pastafreak]

I think that's the case I'm thinking of Barry.

[barry1010]

I think so, Pasta. She was schizophrenic and believed her family wanted to harm her, very difficult for loved ones to cope with.

[Canary42]

Here's one I posted about a few days ago, which may be the one just mentioned above..

https://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/News/Question1825308.html

[Barsel]

I put this on the wrong thread.
It bothers me that this could happen to someone I know and I know from experience that if someone doesn't want to accept help from people, there's not a lot you can do about it.

[pastafreak]

Are you referring to the case in the news, Barsel? That is probably true. But I guess I feel that if family members understand the reason for the rejection, they would still keep aware that the person was ok...even if done via neighbours.

At least another neighbour took note in the case of the lady in daughter's building.

[Dizmo]

I'm not really sure why I used asterisks, I guess an attempt to not trigger anyone or cause upset. Kind of pointless, now that I've thought about it (I'm used to asterisking out certain words in certain online communities that I'm also a part of). I meant methylene blue (just what was needed to help her), not sure how I got that mixed up yesterday. I was very emotional whilst typing, sorry for the mistakes.

[windywillow]

Barry, I too was wondering about the use of Prussian blue pigment and was surprised to read this on Wiki....

"In medicine, orally administered Prussian blue is used as an antidote for certain kinds of heavy metal poisoning, e.g., by thallium(I) and radioactive isotopes of caesium. The therapy exploits the compound's ion-exchange properties and high affinity for certain "soft" metal cations.

It is on the World Health Organization's List of Essential Medicines, the most important medications needed in a basic health system".

My OH (who has used Prussian blue at work) like me, didn't know about its use in medication. Diz is a very knowledgeable fellow.

[pastafreak]

Thanks for posting that windywillow...useful to know.