What Shall I Do About This Job?

[abbeylee90]

Yesterday I got a txt from my job at the care home to say there is no point doing 3 hours per week so will send my p45 and next week wages. Think I might have told you this but they reduced my hours from 30 to 9 hours per week I'm now in a cleaning job cleaning houses 21 hours per was longer Monday-Wednesday but I'm not sure about so hoping to do warehouse work.I regret my decision now to change my days in the care home. I've not had a good day today as supervisor giving me a hard time saying I haven't touched things when I've tried to clean them and it's bad cleaning she find it hard to believe I was a cleaner . They reckon I'm not listening but concentration is my weekness 

[abbeylee90]

No she knows I'm going to work not sure it worth telling now if I don't know if I'll stick to it

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, it's possible that your mum might have had a go at you, or she'd maybe have just sighed... but you've ended up in even more of a mess now! 

*Because you'd had previous cleaning experience, your mum - like your bosses, like us on AB - would have thought the job would be well within your capabilities. The reality would have been disappointing for any parent. 

[abbeylee90]

Even care home reduced my hours would have disappointed her

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if the cleaning company don't keep you on, you really should share that with your mum (and your friends). You'll need all the help and support you can get, something to break you out of this cycle of disappointing jobs, disappointing outcomes. 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, speaking as a parent - of course the news about your hours being cut would have disappointed your mum. No parent enjoys seeing their child (no matter how old) failing!

[pastafreak]

I'd say struggling...

[abbeylee90]

Pasta do you mean tell my mum I'm struggling?

[newmodarmy]

Yes, you are clearly struggling to hold down jobs, work enough hours and find work you enjoy and are good at

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I used the word 'failing' because you failed to meet the requirements of the job and the care home cut your hours right back. 

[abbeylee90]

Yes I need this to come to me

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, what can we - ABers, your mum, your friends - do to get you out of this cycle of ...disappointing jobs, jobs that don't work out for one reason or another? 

[abbeylee90]

That why I feel not speaking to anyone or can't eat

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, that won't do you any good. It'll be hard, but just steel yourself to sit down and have a long, proper talk with your mum. Tell her that you've not done as well as you would have liked on the job front, and  kept some of the stuff from her as you hoped to get it sorted on your own.

[abbeylee90]

I'm actually dreading tomorrow 

[Floko]

Abbey, please calm down, go offline, and get a bite to eat, and a drink of milk and have a good night's sleep, ready for tomorrow when you can do your very, very best to ensure all the surfaces etc. are sparkling clean

[abbeylee90]

I mean seen the cleaners I was working with talking to the owner before they said I could go home I'm worried it was about me and to do with what my supervisor said to me.

[Karamia]

Autism has been, in the past, more difficult to spot in girls than boys. Girls and women have totally different autistic traits to those more commonly known or seen on boys/men. I have 2 adult female friends who have been diagnosed in late 20's and early 30s. Please please try again and search "Autism in adult females" on NHS site - which might help you identify and recognise some of same issues. This also lead me to an article on National Autistic Society website called "Autistic women and girls". 

If you read more and some of it sounds like you, then you could go to Doctor and discuss these concerns.

If you have Autism and dyspraxia, maybe having full time work would be too much for you. It may not be something you are doing wrong, it may be because of your conditions. 

There would be extra support, benefits, help to find fewer hours and top up with universal credit etc which is what my friend does. She wants to work but she can do what she capable of with extra UC money to get by. She has children and own house and manages much better now that she and her family and friends are aware of what she is dealing with. 

I hope this can help.

[abbeylee90]

I went for test when I was younger they said I'm not autistic 

[Floko]

You will feel much better in the morning if you get a good night's rest ... I promise. Goodnight 

[Karamia]

I still think this should be looked at again. You are talking about maybe 20 years ago. Things are very different now and doctors are more able to spot signs. Please look at the info and there were video clips from 6 different autistic women which may be useful.

Pleaee don't rule this out, as it may actually be key to solving your issues.