Not a good week.

[annie0000]

Found out on Tuesday that a work friend had died suddenly, found out today that it was suicide. No note, no apparent reason, nothing.

Her family is devastated as all are her friends and it makes it worse when no-one knows why I think - maybe something will be discovered later that can make some sense of it all. :(

[skybluefred]

Annie that's terrible,what state must her mind have been in to want to end it all like that.My thought's are with you at this sad time.

[annie0000]

thanks sky - that's the thing, the way things happened (don't want to say how) she obviously had it planned but there was no outward sign.

[ummmm]

That's probably because she made sure there was no outward sign. Very sad news :-(

[annie0000]

thanks ummm - my oh says that it's only the people who don't really want to do it that give the game away. those that are serious just go do it and don't let on. Scary stuff.

[jno]

that's very sad. It may be that looking back you start to think of reasons why she might have been unhappy. The main thing is not to start beating yourself up for having missed them. Keeping her alive and happy was not your responsibility, though it can sometimes feel like it at times like these.

[marval]

That is very sad, I feel for her family and friends.

[Ann]

My thoughts are with you annie, how sad. Things seem to be getting worse I have heard of three suicides this week all near my home town.

[parkie]

No one can see inside the mind of another. My wife's great nephew killed himself at the age of twenty one a few years ago, leaving his parents and two younger sisters, (plus grandparents and other relations, of course).
It's such a waste and it leaves others wondering what they could or should have done, and so many unanswered questions.
All we can do is pray for peace of mind for those left behind.

[annie0000]

thanks guys, jno you've hit the nail on the head, part of me actually feels angry with her as everyone is going about wondering if there is something they could have done or said and are obviously feeling dreadful and to put her poor mother and family through all that pain..... well, then i feel awful for thinking that too as she must obviously have not been right herself to have done it and wasn't necessarily doing it to hurt other people :(

[flump1]

Annie, how awful for you all. It might not ever become apparent why your friend took their own life. Where ever they were recently it must have been agony for them. Even if somebody close had been alerted to their unhappiness, depression is such a debilitating condition, it may not have made any difference . The person you have lost was obviously so distressed ( in their world ) they could not see any way through . We all lead busy lives and nobody could probably foreseen the depth of despair. Stay strong now with your friends. Hugs from me (( HUG )) x

[annie0000]

thanks all. She was such a bubbly personality, i never saw her without a smile or a laugh or bit of chat for anyone. Still hard to take in.

[DTCwordfan]

enough said above......it is sad and having been close, I can understand.....don't condemn your friend - something was seriously amiss. Sense may not be there for an awfully long time, unfortunately.

[mike11111]

Four years ago an older friend of mine died at the age of 77. I was saddened but not particularly surprised, given his age. Two days later I discovered that he had bee found by a neighbour slumped over the kitchen table with a near-empty bottle of whisky in front of him and a plastic bag over his head. Beside him was a note saying, "Sorry, but I just can't take the pain any more". He was a private person who kept himself very much to himself so no one had a clue as to what had been wrong. I had an inkling as I had last seen him three weeks previously and was struck by how grey, drawn and haggard he looked compared to his usual self yet there was no record of him ever seeking medical help shortly prior to this. Many people are like that; they don't want to be a burden but leave behind a lot of unanswered questions and unnecessary guilt, "... if only we'd known!"

[naomi24]

How sad. :o(

[annie0000]

thanks mike and everyone, she was only 38, good job, nice house, new boyfriend...we'll probably never know why.

[ummmm]

My aunty committed suicide in 96 and my 12 year old cousin was left to find her. This was also planned and she'd stolen her ex FIL's beta blockers a few weeks before. None of us new.

My cousin has never shed a tear.

[craft1948]

A girl I worked with's husband hanged himself in the garage...............she was so angry as his children found him.