I think the case you are talking about got settled last year.It was a woman in her early 40s who'd slept with ther boyfriend -and other men after being diagnosed with HIV and not disclosing it to them.There doesn't seem to be any sort of precedent for knowingly passing on other STD's, very hard to prove.The main feature of that case was obviously the potential fatal consequences of HIV, and the fact that she was aware of her condition.Where herpes in concerned, though not life-threatening, it is an ongoing condition and has to be handles delicately as other posters have said.As far as asking this girl out, it's hard to say.if she says no, it might not be because of the herpes, but because she doesn't see you in that way.As a woman I'd have to say that if I got to know someone and liked them, the herpes thing wouldn't be a big deal.