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[jennyjoan]

I have ignored over the last year about 15 phonecalls and about 10 emails. Now I am getting photos of my "friend's" brother, grandchildren from England.

I don't want any communication with this friend who lives in England but in spite of the many hints she is still trying to contact me.

I think this will go on endlessly and now I know I will be forced to deal with it face to face with it as in actually telling her that I want the friendship over. I honestly don't think I should have to do this that the hints should be strong enough.

What do you think. I am writing this with nerves in my stomach as I know this friend will not take this lying down. Thanks

[ummmm]

15 phone calls in a year is not much really.

[jennyjoan]

I don't want any phone calls or emails anymore. Really I don't

[Mamyalynne]

Doesn't sound too much to bear, she obviously wants to share.

Ignore the emails .

[jennyjoan]

I do know if the same thing was happening to me with a friend per se - and I sent the emails phone calls etc and there was no reply - I would go - right - end of -. ok.

[Mamyalynne]

Block her phone number then?

[Tuvok]

Mark her address as spam.

Which email provider for you use, and what programmdo you use formyour emails?

Have you got a cal blocker on your phone or via your phone provider?

[Canary42]

If I were you I would just continue ignoring the communications - very trying, but try to just let it wash over you.

Any response from you will probably only make them more persistent.

I wish you well with it.

[Tuvok]

Worse case - change your email address!

[jennyjoan]

It is not the actual phone calls or actual emails - I know she wants to keep the contact here as she likes to get free bed and breakfast and evening meal here now and again and I never want to that to happen ever again.

I have saw the "light" - - she was home a few weeks ago by caravan and contacted me twice by email and suggested coming here and I said No - wont be here, another email - she would see me next day - No - wont be here.

Now more emails -

[andres]

Send an e-mail saying that you no longer want to have any contact.

[tamborine]

delete what you dont want to respond to. make excuses or mute phone calls but keep connected so they pay, they will soon give up.

[jennyjoan]

Tambo - she leaves voice-messages - ring me - ring me - I don't - and I don't return emails but she actually sent me another email this morning with photos of grandchild. I am NOT interested.

Last week sent me a photo of her Alzheimers's brother who was lying in a bed in a vegetable-like state. My God. I nearly died when that came through.

[Rockrose]

Well if you don’t care about hurting her just tell her you no longer wish to have any contact with her! But if I was that friend I would want to know what I had done that was so bad as to lose a long standing friendship.

[Canary42]

If you don't mind being really brutal about it, tell her you regard any further contact as harassment and you will take the necessary [legal] action to curb it if she persists.

[anneasquith]

Jj, if she wasn't looking for b&b again, would you be happy enough to keep contact with her ?

[kvalidir]

Tbh unless someone had seriously damaged me or mine I'd never be blunt enough to out right say 'jog on' about emails and phone calls to a friend, why not just continue to ignore her?

[jennyjoan]

not really Anne - it's over tobh it was never on - I have looked at our friendship - and this is awful saying but I was never keen on her from the beginning - it just fell into this awful trap (for me). I have never been to her house - now she has invited me - but I refuse to go - her kids when they used to come - never spoke to me or engaged with me ever. Her husband - just said - please and thanks - and that would be for 3 days. Dont want to feel a mug anymore - no -do want this friendship to be well and truly over.

[jennyjoan]

I am Kval - taking the coward's way out - I am just ignoring.

[ummmm]

Just tell her then.

[jennyjoan]

You know when some of your favourite friends were coming - I used to get excited and in a flurry knowing we were going to have some great laughs and fun and carry-on and story-telling of many capers.

No when the time is near for this friend - I would have gone into a depression and not speak and not be socially active until she was gone. Isn't that awful