sex with a married man

[ooh-la-la]

I meet a guy 4 weeks ago, went on a date with him and we got on really well. On the second date we had sex i began to like him even more. I meet him for the third time yesterday and after we had sex he told me he was married. I felt so crap, i just don't know what to do, i stayed with him for about a hour after he told me (without having sex) and he explained everything to me, even though he loves her they're sex life is rubbish, so he just needs someone to fill in that part. I don't really want a lot of commitment and i know if he's not doing it with me he'll find someone else, but then i keep thinking about his wife in the back of my mind. Owww, what a mess, i just don't know what to do what would you do if you were me?

[boxtops]

I think I'll bring you this one again, this is what came to mind, reading this thread - where will it end...?
http://www.metro.co.u...sex-parties-of-course

[cazzz1975]

the clue is in my username, (1975) I am 35 ;)

[Greedyfly]

Lottie I do not think you are old fashioned or prudish at all. I am not saying it would work for everyone or every relationship (not the one I am in now) but I think it can work if its discussed and agreed upon. I know of people who have been married longer than I have been alive that have this 'set up' and they seem happy to me.

[ummmm]

Boxy...it didn't work.

[LoftyLottie]

Can't open your link Boxy :o(

[ummmm]

But what if one was more attractive than the other and so attracted more partners?

[cazzz1975]

consider yourselves lucky that you cant open the link ;)

[boxtops]

It worked last time, it's the one about those very elderly people who still throw their keys in the middle at parties.... some of you will remember the OP.

[ummmm]

Oh yeah....I remember that one.

Open relationships and swingers are a bit different though.

[Greedyfly]

Thanks Cazzz. I don't think I am that young and personally feel I am older than my years. I think things like this have to be agreed between said parties. But I am the least jealous person I know and its not because I don't care or love my partner - I do very much.

[cazzz1975]

Im sure if you give sqad a call he will be more than happy to oblige you greedy ;)

[LoftyLottie]

The very thought of exposing my 63 year old body to a strange man who might be in the same state fills me with horror!!!!;o)

[Greedyfly]

Lol

As I say I am very happy as we are right now.

[Greedyfly]

lol Lottie. It gives me some hope that there are couples out there who have been together a long time like yourselves.

[zabado]

Just think of what you've written . 1. He's married.2.He loves his wife.3.He'll find someone else. Don't be such fool and you find someone else.

[Jerra]

Walk away. It feels like crap that someone lied to you about their status, but don't create bad karma for yourself. You can't blame yourself for not knowing at first, but since you now know he's married, you won't be so innocent continuing on with him.

Draw some ethical boundaries for yourself. He can't apparently, but you can.

[welshlibranr]

Your choice really ooh-la-la, if you are happy to be used...................then carry on!................simple as!.................if not!...............Then tell him to sling his hook!....He'll just go looking for another soft touch!......have more respect for yourself and his wife!...............

[China Doll]

Being the 'other woman' is terribly convieniant if you're not looking for committment and if you don't mind being 'second best' which you undoubtably are. As long as you realise you're both just fufilling a need for the other then it can work but you've already said you've developed 'feeling's and that's just going to continue happening so you have to ask yourself 'is second best the thing I aspire to?'

Personally, I didn't like being second best and I found I didn't like the person I'd become when I was the 'bit on the side'... It took a while for it to really hit home but after an unfortunate incident I realised that the relationship had become untenniable as I did not like the person I'd become (not just someone who could do that to someone else but also the type of person who preferred a quick fix than all the other things that come with a loving relationship), I do not wish to play second fiddle to anyone and even had he ever left his wife there was no way I'd take up with him as I would never be able to trust him which led me to conclude 'what the feck are you playing at woman, get a damn grip and remember who you are'

However I won't deny it was fun before I got to those conclusions but am now in a relationship (well I will be after the rugby finishes ;0) and I'm glad I wised up.

[piggynose]

apparently in spain a lot of blokes have something called a mobil cachonda. i think thats the correct term. it basically means the other phone for his other woman.

[Prudie]

I think a lot of male dog-walkers in my area have one of those piggy!