Is it ever acceptable

[NoMercy]

to sleep with someone on a first date?

Why would a woman be branded a tart, and a man be given a big pat on the back?

[no-knowledge]

is this woman from Bakewell?

[dot.hawkes]

Acceptable by who? the two people involved or other people passing judgement?

[no-knowledge]

a big Pat on the back sounds a bit scary , is it the tarts Irish husband?

[legendis.god]

Is it moree or less acceptable if the pair dont tell anyone?

[NoMercy]

Ok, dot, do you think it's wise to jump straight in there before getting to know the person?

[ummmm]

It depends on so many different things. I've known my other half since I was 5 so when we got together we didn't have the 'getting to know each other'. Personally I think it's each to their own and no one has the right to judge. He who cast the first stone and all that.

[NoMercy]

leg, surely if two people have sex on a first date, neither of them are in it for the long haul? Would you sleep with someone on the first date if you really liked them and wanted to see them again?

[legendis.god]

I refuse to answer that question on the grounds i may and certainly could prove your entire theory wrong.




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[NoMercy]

Not really Ledge End, no.

How could you prove my theory wrong?

Who even said I had a theory, I was merely asking, not pontificating. :-)

[China Doll]

I don't really see how it's any one elses business other than the two people involved. I mean, people can have an opinion about it but it's really not a matter of acceptance since it's no one elses concern.

[legendis.god]

I refer you to my pevious answer.



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[NoMercy]

I'm only asking because it has happened so many times when a woman is frowned upon but a guy gets a big thumbs up.

[dot.hawkes]

It's not necessarily the case that a person dates a person they don't know though is it? is it not also statistically acceptable that a fair number of people who go out on a first date are likely to already know each other? or am i being too simplistic?

[pastafreak]

I doubt it has that much bearing on things frankly. Women are not likely to be 'branded' any more. What of the couple who have already known each other for a while before they go out on a 'date' (that sounds such an antiquated word for some reason). Sex is not the glue that holds a long lasting relationship together.....it is one of the ingredients tho. Each has to follow their own idea as to what is right for them. It is all a bit of a lottery anyway....there are too many factors that determine what makes a relationship work.

[ummmm]

It will always be frowned on to some degree as woman turn up to the 'one night stand' saying 'I'm pregnant'

[NoMercy]

leg, humour me but wtf are you on about?

[NoMercy]

That's another thing, ummm. Why do so many people have casual unprotected sex without thinking of the possible consequences, ie. pregnancy?

[dot.hawkes]

in your experience you mean you have been in a conversation many times where people have made comments about this? I've havn't, and so i donlt think it is something that people generally make a fuss about

[pastafreak]

I would never judge anyone....it is their business,and their choice what they do.

[NoMercy]

I'm not making a fuss dot. I'm just wondering why women and men are still treated so differently even in this day and age.