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Not dressing in 'sexy underwear'
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Is it just me who doesn't dress in nice underwear for my husband? I just don't see the point. I am quite unhappy about my body, not so much my figure but I'm quite private about my husband seeing my giblets. I'm quite relaxed once the lights are switched out (I wouldn't dream of doing it with the lights on).
My husband doesn't mind, he's never mentioned anything about it.
I would just cringe if I put on some Ann summers thing, I would be so embarrassed. I'm a lights off, knickers off girl!
Do you women wear decent underwear to entice your husband/partner and do you feel embarrassed?
My husband doesn't mind, he's never mentioned anything about it.
I would just cringe if I put on some Ann summers thing, I would be so embarrassed. I'm a lights off, knickers off girl!
Do you women wear decent underwear to entice your husband/partner and do you feel embarrassed?
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Blimey...you don't log in for 24 hrs....
This blokes viewpoint...I am a fan of sexy undies, there's nothing like the tease of it all, like Sinderella said earlier, it's like unwrapping a prezzy on Christmas Day BUT only if the lady is comfy with it.
It's like any element of your sex life, it has to be comfortable for both parties to deal with. Mrs Slapshot has a drawerful of "fun" stuff and it gets opened whenever she feels like it, it's not a forced thing. Looking at how many "wierd" lifestyles there are, swapping, threesomes, bondage all that sort of stuff, wearing slinky undies seems quite tame.... I notice JJ hasn't commented ;-)
This blokes viewpoint...I am a fan of sexy undies, there's nothing like the tease of it all, like Sinderella said earlier, it's like unwrapping a prezzy on Christmas Day BUT only if the lady is comfy with it.
It's like any element of your sex life, it has to be comfortable for both parties to deal with. Mrs Slapshot has a drawerful of "fun" stuff and it gets opened whenever she feels like it, it's not a forced thing. Looking at how many "wierd" lifestyles there are, swapping, threesomes, bondage all that sort of stuff, wearing slinky undies seems quite tame.... I notice JJ hasn't commented ;-)
4 pages worth already eh ? Ah well responding to the OP.
You have to do what seems good for you, but in any partnership one should also consider the wishes of the one we love. Maybe that means being outside our comfort zone occasionally for the sake of the other. But if you can't then your partner should try to understand and accept. A relationship is like that, talking things over, making compromises, etc..
You are unhappy with your body. As I can not see it I can not tell if you have a genuine reason not to be happy about it. But maybe you need to see this as something that could be worked on, whether it is a physical problem you can solve, or an attitude one where you would benefit from gaining a better self image and contentment about who you are.
Given you say it is not so much about your figure, self image seems to be the thing you have a problem with. Sure you can explain it in terms of privacy but we are talking about your partner here, and if you can not be open and intimate with them then that is a sad situation. I'd advise trying to work on it for your own benefit. But of course it is your choice.
And since your husband doesn't mind I'm unsure it is much of an issue for the pair of you anyway. But in answer to the "what's the point" question, well the point is to excite the person you love and give them pleasure. Mush as a picture deserves a good frame, do you not deserve to present yourself to your loved one in the best possible light ? Have to say I feel sad for your husband who has apparently accepted that he'll only get intimacy from yourself in the dark, but I suppose what you never have you tend not to miss.
You have to do what seems good for you, but in any partnership one should also consider the wishes of the one we love. Maybe that means being outside our comfort zone occasionally for the sake of the other. But if you can't then your partner should try to understand and accept. A relationship is like that, talking things over, making compromises, etc..
You are unhappy with your body. As I can not see it I can not tell if you have a genuine reason not to be happy about it. But maybe you need to see this as something that could be worked on, whether it is a physical problem you can solve, or an attitude one where you would benefit from gaining a better self image and contentment about who you are.
Given you say it is not so much about your figure, self image seems to be the thing you have a problem with. Sure you can explain it in terms of privacy but we are talking about your partner here, and if you can not be open and intimate with them then that is a sad situation. I'd advise trying to work on it for your own benefit. But of course it is your choice.
And since your husband doesn't mind I'm unsure it is much of an issue for the pair of you anyway. But in answer to the "what's the point" question, well the point is to excite the person you love and give them pleasure. Mush as a picture deserves a good frame, do you not deserve to present yourself to your loved one in the best possible light ? Have to say I feel sad for your husband who has apparently accepted that he'll only get intimacy from yourself in the dark, but I suppose what you never have you tend not to miss.
I've had an adventurous past... it depends who I have been with at the time..quite happy to go along with fantasy stuff unless it involves anything degrading... for me that is if he wants to sit at the table in a bib and a nappy thats fine....so long as he doesn't expect me to change it...so nurse, maid, st Trinians sixth former..(nothing younger thats pervy ) whatever within reason How ever I think my best bet with Redman is to turn up in a liverpool strip with a tray of food...
I like nice underwear and wear it first and foremost for me. My Husband likes to see me in nice underwear but isn't at all bothered by my sensible Sloggis either.
However, if he was to come home with some of the tat that you can get from Ann Summers then it would be a very different evening to the one he might have envisioned. Fortunately he has excellent taste in lingerie and wouldn't dream of venturing off to Ann Summers, for undies anyway......
However, if he was to come home with some of the tat that you can get from Ann Summers then it would be a very different evening to the one he might have envisioned. Fortunately he has excellent taste in lingerie and wouldn't dream of venturing off to Ann Summers, for undies anyway......
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Crikey, I didn't expect any more answers/opinions.
Sqad - my husband can look through brochures or whatnot if he so wishes but he wouldn't find it easy to cheat on me (it'd be too difficult) lol.
Like Old Geezer said, what my husband's never had, he'll never miss.
I think I'd feel a bit, err, well like it was really planned if I put 'sexy underwear' on. It's bad enough cause we have to use protection, I don't want it to feel anymore planned.
I wonder how people gain confidence to 'let go'. I wouldn't feel confident if I was a size 8.
Anyway, it's been an interesting thread
Sqad - my husband can look through brochures or whatnot if he so wishes but he wouldn't find it easy to cheat on me (it'd be too difficult) lol.
Like Old Geezer said, what my husband's never had, he'll never miss.
I think I'd feel a bit, err, well like it was really planned if I put 'sexy underwear' on. It's bad enough cause we have to use protection, I don't want it to feel anymore planned.
I wonder how people gain confidence to 'let go'. I wouldn't feel confident if I was a size 8.
Anyway, it's been an interesting thread
Giblets lol. I still like to wear nice bras and panties, even though they are probably only seen on the washing line. Like you, I don't like overt shows of nakedness either, and like you would cringe at the thought of anything suggestive eg, from Ann Summers. I have some nice undies but it's because I like to wear them not to entice Mr ask, god forbid. On the other hand I have some super harvest festivals (all is safely gathered in) for winter wear.
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