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Sex Addict
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I wasnt going to ask this as its such a personal subject but here goes.
I have recently started dating a guy who is a few years younger than me. He is absolutely amazing. He treats me so well and is unbelievably gorgeous.
The trouble is, he seems to just want sex. All the time.
We only see each other on weekends (I have kids and don't want to confuse them) and he says that this isnt enough.
He meets me on my lunch break, and asks for sex. He picks me up from work, and asks for sex. He asks me to stay over at his, and asks for sex.
I don't deny him, but for me it's just not on my list of priorities. I always think of what I can be doing... like my work from home or the kids' ironing.
I am 30 and he is 23. I wonder if this is the problem?
He says he and his ex had sex 3-4 times a day! Seriously, I'd be happy with once a week. I am honestly not bothered about sex, but don't want to sound like a bore...
I have recently started dating a guy who is a few years younger than me. He is absolutely amazing. He treats me so well and is unbelievably gorgeous.
The trouble is, he seems to just want sex. All the time.
We only see each other on weekends (I have kids and don't want to confuse them) and he says that this isnt enough.
He meets me on my lunch break, and asks for sex. He picks me up from work, and asks for sex. He asks me to stay over at his, and asks for sex.
I don't deny him, but for me it's just not on my list of priorities. I always think of what I can be doing... like my work from home or the kids' ironing.
I am 30 and he is 23. I wonder if this is the problem?
He says he and his ex had sex 3-4 times a day! Seriously, I'd be happy with once a week. I am honestly not bothered about sex, but don't want to sound like a bore...
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Lots of good advice on here already but thought I'd add my opinion. He is very lucky he has a nice face. Because of this fortunate genetic fact, he has been able to sail along, having sex with who he pleases. And because we are genetically programmed to mate with a good, fit, even-
12:48 Fri 25th Jan 2013
Everyone has their own range of sex drive. Whilst it is good for you to try to accomodate him to a degree, he also has to do the same for you. And from what you say it seems he either isn't interested in his partner's needs or isn't capable of of changing to accomodate them.
IMO if you get into the habit of a lot of sex then you end up wanting it that regualrly. On the other hand if you get into the habit of absitance then you end up not being that fussed about it.
If this is a genuine issue for you and the incompatibility can not be discussed and a compromise reached it may pay you to consider your options. You could be a fair old while waiting for him to consider your needs by the sound of it.
PS in my experience I've never had a queue of ladies waiting outside my bedroom door, so I figure it's the norm not to be fussed anyway ;-)
IMO if you get into the habit of a lot of sex then you end up wanting it that regualrly. On the other hand if you get into the habit of absitance then you end up not being that fussed about it.
If this is a genuine issue for you and the incompatibility can not be discussed and a compromise reached it may pay you to consider your options. You could be a fair old while waiting for him to consider your needs by the sound of it.
PS in my experience I've never had a queue of ladies waiting outside my bedroom door, so I figure it's the norm not to be fussed anyway ;-)
You're only 30 and not even considered in your prime yet, MM........
What you got to answer to yourself is " Is this going to lead to anything in the future" Is he just using me for sex?"
How will your children take to him when and if they do ever meet?
How will he treat your children?
Are you smitten by him as he is younger and gorgeous as you mention?
Why did he mention that he and his ex had sex 3-4 times a day? and did that pressure you to continue with that, even though you say that, at the moment, once a week will make you happier?
You say you dont deny him.......Does that mean you have sex with him, even when you really dont fancy it?
Sorry to a bit blunt, MM...but these are the facts as I see it......and its up to you, and only you, to see where you go from here. You know deep down how you feel.
I wish you all the very best, my lovely :) x
What you got to answer to yourself is " Is this going to lead to anything in the future" Is he just using me for sex?"
How will your children take to him when and if they do ever meet?
How will he treat your children?
Are you smitten by him as he is younger and gorgeous as you mention?
Why did he mention that he and his ex had sex 3-4 times a day? and did that pressure you to continue with that, even though you say that, at the moment, once a week will make you happier?
You say you dont deny him.......Does that mean you have sex with him, even when you really dont fancy it?
Sorry to a bit blunt, MM...but these are the facts as I see it......and its up to you, and only you, to see where you go from here. You know deep down how you feel.
I wish you all the very best, my lovely :) x
Look if he is amazing, treats you well and is gorgeous AND only sees you on the weekends what is the problem. You are kind of having it all. It may not last, especially as you are already tiring of his demands, so enjoy it while it lasts. It may last shorter than a Katie Price marriage and in a few years you will look back and remember.
Sounds to me that he has a maturity issue if he is so one-tracked in his mind.
Your options are:
1. Shag him to near-death to the point that he is put off
2. A bit of the fem-dom thing and control him
3. A pair of bricks judiciously closed on him
4. Finish it
5. Arrive at some form of "contract" so each of you knows what's expected of them, sex wise and time wise.
Your options are:
1. Shag him to near-death to the point that he is put off
2. A bit of the fem-dom thing and control him
3. A pair of bricks judiciously closed on him
4. Finish it
5. Arrive at some form of "contract" so each of you knows what's expected of them, sex wise and time wise.
Elliemay, he said he and his ex split up because he was "son demanding". I know...
Yogi... I can't help but feel he is using me for sex. As for the children. I have no intention of introducing him to them. They are far too precious for that.
I suppose i am a bit smitten with him. He is younger and absolutely gorgeous. I would never believe a guy like him would be interested in me. He makes me smile so much, but I can't help but feel he uses sex as a bribe.
Yogi... I can't help but feel he is using me for sex. As for the children. I have no intention of introducing him to them. They are far too precious for that.
I suppose i am a bit smitten with him. He is younger and absolutely gorgeous. I would never believe a guy like him would be interested in me. He makes me smile so much, but I can't help but feel he uses sex as a bribe.
