How can she be a lesbian?

[dollypins]

My friends mother has just come out as gay. I can't understand how you can suddenly decide you are gay. She's been married to her husband for 16 years. My friend is really upset and hopes that her mum is just having a midlife crisis.

Either it's a phase she's going through or she's always been gay? What do you think? What advise can I give my friend?

[Teddy_boy]

New balls anyone?

[boxtops]

I spy digression, folks ...

[annadomino]

DT off his trolley

[Slapshot]

New Balls...in this thread????

[DTCwordfan]

Look I couldn't care less about you, ummmm, your comments can be extremely belittling and petty - I guess to true to form to the way you try and chase people down.

It must be the end of the holiday season as you have been reasonably benign over the period.

[Teddy_boy]

Was that in bad taste?

[annadomino]

I'll get my coat, and my brolly

[Teddy_boy]

Youve crossed the line.

[ummmm]

Man up.

[lcg]

line, what line? there was clearly chalk dust! (stop it!!!! x) x

[Teddy_boy]

Im every woman its all in me,
any way you want it baby,
ill do it naturolly

[Slapshot]

First I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
I grew strong
I learned how to carry on

[Carakeel]

Dollypins, I can well understand your friend being upset at this new situation, but it will ease. She really must stay talking to her mother and her father and try to be unbiased. Nobody knows really how a marriage has been other than the two people who were married. I feel sorry for both, as for the husband, this must make him question the relationship he had with his wife. At the same time, it should also tell him that she did feel something very strong, call it deep friendship or love, for him if she stayed with him for all those years, despite knowing she was not living the "right" life for her. If he loved still does he will be dreadfully hurt by loosing her ... regardless whether to another man or a woman. There is no point really in stating it is not his fault, nor hers either, as nobody outside of these two know what has gone on thoughout the years. For her, living a life she must have felt was so wrong and yet so right in some ways, must have been extremely difficult. She seems to have waited until your friend is old enough to be faced with the reality of her mother's life. So please, try to help your friend by listening, not judging either of the parents. Try to see both sides and try to help your friend to see both sides. I wish you all the best. It is good that she has a friend she can turn to.

[ummmm]

lol...

DT is probably busy reporting!!

[Teddy_boy]

Perhaps if every good man is either married or gay, then maybe every good woman is married or gay?Or both?

[Carakeel]

Sorrym that should have been .. if he loved her and still does ...

[DTCwordfan]

there she goes again, like a cracked record.

[DTCwordfan]

Night all - just be there for your friend dollypins...no advise is really needed straight away, just a shoulder for her to rant and cry on......

[Teddy_boy]

Youve got to love the craic here.

[Slapshot]

Teddy-boy...that was funny!!