OK what would you do?!!!

[Barmaid]

I am getting close to committing a crime here. Mr BM's aunt died last week. His ex has been kept informed. The funeral is Thursday at 1000 in Scotland. We have to go from here (Cambridgeshire) to Cardiff (to pick up Mr BM's disabled sister) and then to Scotland. To be completely reasonable we really need to leave here tomorrow night.

His ex has just texted to say that she is "out of the area" on Wed night (normal contact night), therefore we HAVE to continue with contact and that her son is in tears because he doesn't understand what he has done wrong - this is despite the fact that we have discussed at length with my step son the fact that we CAN'T do contact on Wed and explained the reasons why. We were both happy that he understood.

So what do we do? Do we a) not attend the funeral (of a dearly loved relative) b) we attend and say "flump her" (not really an option, given no 1 step son) c) I go round there and smack the silly bitch senseless or d) Mr BM drives to Cardiff and then to Scotland on his own and in the meantime, I have contact with his son and then catch a train to Scotland (thereby missing the funeral but just making it for the end of the wake) or e) something else.

I am so angry.......

[ttfn]

Not yet, I am.

Lights out shortly though, so nightcaps on and down soooooon :)

[Sparkles62]

BM option C seems the most satistying, but please dont even consider it, thats just letting her win. ( buy yourself a punchbag and think of her if you need to take your frustration out on something) hope everything works out ok. X

[craft1948]

Good girl.................my answer is still c.............

[ttfn]

On the other hand my second (and equally considered) answer:

Voo doo what you want ;))))))))

[tinkerbell23]

E) send her a few pizza deliveries
F) dog poo in a brown bag on her doorstep-set alight
G) any other childish prank that would make you feel sooooo much better x

[mike11111]

Can't quite understand this!
Barmaid, a qualified lawyer. Seeking advice from those who are evenly less qualified.

[ttfn]

mike11111 - try to think of this as the OP letting off some steam ...

[tinkerbell23]

H) replace her shampoo with veet

[FredPuli43]

Quite right,ttfn.

This kind of thing isn't really about law, anyway. The law courts are often just used by one side to get back at the other, it's nothing to do with the child. If it were really about the child and the child's well being, the one supposedly 'aggrieved' side would be reasonable and behave like a sensible adult and parent, agree and compromise, not argue, and not do everything and anything to irritate the other over what is always something really trivial but often exaggerated for effect. .

[ummmm]

You know me, BM, I would go and worry about the consequences after.

The woman doesn't realise how lucky she is.

[rockyracoon]

I would just go, so you won't pick the son up and she MAY take you to court, but surely a judge would see reason, this isn't a case of can't be bothered, it's a case of necessity. I do feel for you BM, the childbearer (wouldn't dream of calling her a mother) of my nephew is a complete and utter witch, a truly despicable person, he now lives with my brother and he won't have anything to do with her whatsoever. You reap what you sow, she'll lose in the end.

[pizza]

Condolences to Mr B and yourself Barmaid
If it was me Barmaid I would take great pleasure in taking this to court and having it on record as lcg said.
The kindle might give you hours of pleasure but not letting the silly bi**hes behaviour stop you and Mr B from attending the funeral of a loved one is priceless.
These exes that can't move on and give and take don't deserve the support of the kids fathers.
Some people are just bitter and twisted, what a good role models for future generations!!
On behalf of all us Abbers get your ar*e to court tomorrow and let us know how you get on.