I could never do anything right for my mother, everything was wrong. She criticised my appearance all the time. "If I had legs like yours I would permanently wear trousers". If i grew my hair she preferred it short, If I had it cut she preferred it long. If I had short sleeves she would tell me to cover my boney arms up. She really did chip away at my confidence. She died 20 years ago and I have never recovered my confidence. I agonise what to wear and am so critical of my appearance. I understand where everyone is coming from, it is not compulsary to love your parents, it must be great if you do.