hypothetical - just curious...?

[joko]

many years ago, i was staying at a families house for about 3-4 days, as my boyfriend was invited to their daughters wedding as a friend of the groom, and as an usher...it was in london so i went too and stayed over.

they were, lets just say a bit of a chav family - think marginally better than jeremy kyle guests...anyway, they were perfectly kind etc and i was happy to do dishes, hoover etc - and even bought them a set of picture frames as a thank you gift for allowing us to stay - however at one point the other daughter told us that she'd had to convince her father not to demand that we thoroughly clean the oven and the toilet... i told her i would have refused...
i was disgusted, and felt it was a step too far and that he was just taking the Fosters and taking liberties, trying to get out of doing the jobs we all hate...he seemed a bit of a bullyboy chancer type
had he stated beforeheand what he expected i would not have stayed over - we didnt have too - we only went early because the groom wanted a hand and some friends with him

what do you think?
do you think hed have been justified in asking us to do this?
would you have refused or done it?
how much is too much?

im just curious really, i am not asking for advice etc.

[annie0000]

jj - are you anthea turner in disguise?

[Sachs]

bob!!!!!! Fantastic!!! I'm howling here!!! xxx

[marval]

You can come and stay with me Jayne, as long as you clean up afterwards.lol

[McMouse]

We don't have all the information here. It could be that the toilet was indeed a khazi in a shed at the bottom of the garden. Now if that was the case it should not be incumbent upon guests to do the cleaning as they might inadvertantly upset the ecological balance of the composting system.

[Sachs]

Pity we can't award stars to bob for that! :0)

[Sachs]

lol Mc!

[bobjugs12]

I agree Mc. We need all the details? Did they have one of those little tea-cosy things for the bogroll? Was there any small children anouncing that they wanted "To do a poo at Pauls"? How many times did you use the aforementioned cr@pper in the course of the weeken? Did your BF quaff to much sherry and spend most of the night talking to Huey on the big white phone?

PS Sachs, if you fancy a dinner party any time let me know. I'll cook.

[joggerjayne]

sachs ... "would I clean a pebble dashed toilet?"

Yes, I would.

But ...

If I omitted to do so, I would expect my host to refrain from making a fuss.

Likewise, if a guest of mine omitted to do so, I would not make a fuss.

I mean crikey ... next thing, joko's host will be complaining that she tipped her soup bowl towards her chest at dinner.

[Sachs]

Lol bob!

[joggerjayne]

"Did they have one of those little tea-cosy things for the bog roll?"

If Yes ... definite chavs and pikeys.

Do NOT go there again.

[Sachs]

jayne,
no no no mrs! ;0)

[McMouse]

JJ 's thought about the soup bowl has made me think more about this. Were there dining table place settings so you knew exactly where to sit? Did the host "dress for dinner" i.e. put a shell suit on over his vest and Y-fronts? I need much more information.

[joggerjayne]

McMouse ... LOL LOL at shell suit reference.

There could be a rich vein of "chav host etiquette" to be opened up here !

[society]

Joko, maybe the daughters were playing with your mind and they were just having a bit of fun. You have no actual proof of what the father had in his mind at that time. I think you are being gullible to this mischief.

[joko]

haha to you all...this was about 15 years ago so it is hypothetical in the sense that i dont really need an answer and there is no chance of me seeing them ever again.
i did not want to go and stay but they insisted in preparation for the ceremony.
he was driving so basically we had to go together...could not have afforded petrol money and a trian ticket.

like i said i was just curious as to what others made of it

like i said - it was no joke...you were not there to hear the context of the conversation so you can hardly judge her intentions...she was deadly serious

as i said he was just trying his luck and hoping we would do some dirty work for him, that should have been done ages ago...like i said chavvy chancer bully.

[Old_Geezer]

I think one needs to hear both sides of a situation, but going on the initial post, he did seem to be considering pushing his luck. But maybe they are used to the air turning blue in their house :-) Nothing ventured nothing gained.