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JackDavis | 20:15 Mon 13th Oct 2008 | Family Life
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I don't know if this is the right section, but i'll put it here anyway.

Basically i am 23, and i have been married to my wife for 4 years. She knows i'm bisexual, But i really want a relationship with a man now, i don't know what the hell to do, I'm not really attracted to my wife anymore. I do still love her though, and i don't want to hurt her.
Any ideas/ advice?
I'm kinda desperate.
P.s, I know i'm being selfish to my wife here, but i'm really not happy. :(
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If you really love her you will put your desires aside for her. Long term loving relationships are not about 'I want' but about mutual support, trust and companionship.
If you wish to love someone else you must choose to end your marriage unless your current partner is spectacularly forgiving, a lunatic, or has a strange sense of humour.
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Yeah but what am i going to say to her, i really don't want to hurt her :(
I'm just really not happy. i know it's selfish,
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You got married and promised to be with her until death, and you promised to forsake all others, including other men.
Did you lie on your wedding day ?
You could tell her you think you might be gay or are slightly more attracted to guys. And also 23 (in my opineon) is a bit to young to get married. I think that was a mistake for you. Remember honesty is the key to a happy relationship. Im sure your wife expects you to be be honest about your feelings although truth can hurt. But if you do not admit your feelings to her you both are wasting your time with eachother. She is in a relationship that is based on a lie, and you are making yourself unhappy to preserve her feelings. Eventually you will express your unhappiness in someway that will damage the relationship(maybe cheating with other men).Which will hurt your wife even more. So why not end a relationship that will not work out anyways especially if it's departuring you from happiness. Tell her that you've been holding in these feelings for a long time to keep her happy, so that she knows that you truly love her although she may be hurt. Counceling is also a good option. If your up to it. You should tell her as soon as possible yet at the right time.And how are you selfish? You are making yourself miserable to keep her happy. You are only selfish because you are not truthful to her.


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