Long distance relationships?

[-gem-]

My boyfriend of 3 years is moving to the north of England for uni from where we are in London. He thinks the relationship will hold together if we see each other every other weekend, but I'm thinking of calling it off since I can't be sure if he'll be faithful. I've heard long distance relationships are hard work. What should I do?

[~max~]

If you are already thinking of calling it off without even trying, then I guess you're not that committed anyway.....Plus, you don't seem to trust him very much. Sorry...

[BagPussAA]

It would depend on whether you love each other. If you are already thinking that it will be too much hard work and you are not prepared to put it in then it will never work. I was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (him in Wigan, Me in Dorset) for well over a year but it was worth putting the hard work in as we have now been married for 3 years and could not be happier.

[bednobs]

my thoughts exactly. End it. if you can't trust him, duno why you are with him now.... its not just people in the north of england who are unfaithful ... who's to say he isnt having an affair now?

[helliebobs]

What makes you unsure he won't be faithful? Has he given you any reason, in the 3 years you've been together, to doubt him? If not then I don't think it would be very fair to end the relationship on a doubt which may be unfounded.
I've just started a new relationship which is already long distance and is about to get even longer and I've never had a long distance relationship before so I've got fears and doubts, but I think he's worth it so I'm willing to try and see how we go.
However, university is one of the best times of your life for new experiences and meeting new people so you have to take that into account as well.
I'd give it a try if I were you, the most important thing you can do is keep talking to each other! To be honest sounds to me like you've already made your mind up!

[-gem-]

Thanks very much for your kind replies. He did get close to kissing my best friend one time and in general has a reputation for being a bit of a flirt, but I don't know for sure if it went beyond that. I don't know what would be harder though, splitting or trying it long distance. It's driving me crazy.
Gemma

[Octavius]

LDR's are really hard work and it takes a lot of commitment and trust. You have to face up to the fact that he is going to meet a lot of new people, including girls. So if you are having doubts about his commitment to you, then as said, do you believe it could really last? And if he innocently mentions any girls names in general conversation, is it going to silently tear you apart?

Only you can be the judge of what to do and whether you believe what you already have is worth fighting for.

[LoftyLottie]

I assume you are both quite young, unless he is going to University later in life. Personally, I don't think you should make any firm long term commitments. As for calling it off because he is going to university away from you - well if you really cared that much about him then how can you think about calling it off? Relationships should be allowed to develop or cool down naturally. You can't plan it out.

Just relax. What will be will be. if he comes back to you and you end up together then that's fine. If not, well it would have happened anyway.