Hi weeal,, hope you are well, it is not nice to have to go through something like that is it, you really loved that person, or you would not have married would you, and thats what I was saying, the situation is very sad. what you have is brilliant, you are being very sensible, not many are, I can understand if a bloke is abusive, verbally or physically, I would say get out now, don't wait for the second time, but when good love goes bad, it shatters your dreams and is crap. take care wee one, and look after yourself, xx