How many chances

[Sasha13]

Do you give someone that you've just started seeing if they seem to be messing you around? i.e. making excuses not to see you/ignoring your texts.

Do you give them the benefit of the doubt, or is it one chance only for you?

[jno]

once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times is enemy action, to quote Goldfinger. I think that's about right

[leelapops]

I think jno is right!

Sasha, I would think once or twice would be just a bit ditzy, but to continue to avoid you or fail to get in touch, is just kinda rude. You can do better!

[weeal]

I agree with JNO

[Sasha13]

It's more a hypothetical question really. It has happened to me in the past and I've cut off contact but then sometimes wondered if I'd been a bit harsh. Just wanted to get other people's opinions!!

And jno - aren't happenstance and coincidence the same thing? :-)

[jno]

Sasha, I think happenstance just means something happens - once, purely by chance. The way 'things' happen all the time. Coincidence suggests two things happening that look as if they're connected but may not be. But if something happens three times, time to get out your Walther PPK!

[Le Chat]

The way I see it, if a guy is really into you, he wont make a single excuse not to see you and he wont ignore a single text!
We all know this yet still hope it's not true!

[Sugar&spice]

I think that if this person is has messed you about ( i presume this is about yourself) as in ignoring you then ignore it once, after that if it continues you should consider whether it is working and primarily whether he actually cares about you as much as he should. If he is ignoring you a lot then maybe he does not see your relationship as serious, if this is the case you need to talk to him, he may also not realise that he is doing it and you need to bring it to his attention. After that if he continues to mess you about then you may need to end it; if you ignore it it may get worse and it's only you who will be getting hurt.

so to summarise; talk to him so he knows how you feel and see how it goes from there. Just think, is this what you want and is he good enough for you? Noone deserves to be messed about.

xxx

[Petal~flower]

Sasha, if he is ignoring you, and making excuses not to see you, and you have only just started seeing each other. Then let him go.

It will only wear you down in the long run xx

[heart braker]

i have a few girls chasing me and I am messing them around. However I have decided to really commit to them now until I have slept with both of them. The reason I am messing them around in the first place is that I have a girl friend and quite busy.
I know this isnt the answer you were after but at least you can see it from a different perspective now.

Hope this helps