SallyX, have you tried Exochat? It is a simple site, not as complex or as well known as Answerbank is but it offers a place to chat to new friends and have the banter that Body and Soul used to have before the vile stuff occured of recent weeks.
The real problem isnt a site, but the fact the troublemakers on that site will soon move from one place to another and cause more trouble. It is like a small clique of two groups who like to move from forum to forum, site to site causing problems for each of the members on the opposing group and it is unfortunately something that will happen wherever you end up settling.
Anyway, for now Exochat seems a fairly friendly place, I see Boo and Legend are on it so maybe they can vouch for whether it appears friendly enough or not.
Other sites I have heard about are one that is called Dafties or something, although I am aware that Whiffy has connections to that site too and therefore may bring the said "Haters" to it if he uses that more than Answerbank. But I havent registered to know whether that is the case.
Brainformation is similar to Answerbank from what I have heard and little i have seen for serious Q and A and debate.
Then there is Chatterbank or similar but I believe they have a very strict cliqueness about it and so new people are treated with a lot of suspicion.
So far Exochat (stick a dot com at the end of the name) is my favourite but it is basic and not an in depth Q and A site that Answerbank we all know and love is. But it has a few Answerbankers on it and it is more free to chat than they allow on this one if you just want a gossip or a laugh.
Here is hoping that any of the above recommendations dont get infected by the scourge of aliases and abusers too quickly tho :(