did you give your children "that talk" or is sex ed. in school sufficient?

[sweet~teen]

My parents never gave me "the talk" and the sex education in school was appauling.In fact is was almost non existent.We had one lesson of PSE a week which usually involved learning about how to treat others,asking our views on controversial issues etc. But nohing on actual sex education. I started by periods just two weeks after starting at secondary school and I had never been told what periods were.I thought I was going to die and couldn't understand where the blood was coming from.It was the worst 5 days of my life and it was some 6 days later that I understood partially what periods were.
Also when I was 13 I missed a period.I thought the ONLY reason I could have missed a period was if I was pregnant.Since I was not sexually active at all I came to the conclusion that I had in some way come in contact with sperm and believed until my period came the next month that I was pregnant!
Despite this I don't believe children should be given the sex talk by their parents.Sometimes The sex ed. in school is sufficient but even when it isn't NO child wants to be told that stuff by their parents.Parents should leave it to the kids to fnd the info. out themselves.You agree?

[nais surtsol]

4getmenot, you have beenc alling me a lesbian all day, are you sure it's not you who like a bit of rug munching?

[andy-hughes]

OK, sidestepping the backbiting that seems to be getting away from the point -

I do think that parents should be involved in their children's sex education. It doesn't have to be a formal 'birds and bees' discussion. I have told all my girls that if they have any questions about anything at all ever, they can ask me, and they have, in varying ways, because they are very different from each other.

The vital message to put in place is the concpt of pregnancy and STD's from unprotected sex.

The other vital ingredient is honesty - all my children knew, and know, thaty if they ask a question about anything under the sun, they will receive as honest an answer as i can give them. If I don;t know the truth, I will find out, and get back to them - this helps in displacing the playground nonsense that teenagers fret about until someone puts them right.

Communication is a big part of family life - listen to, and talk to your children. It's part of loving them.

[cazzz1975]

how is the escort job?

[sweet~teen]

fine thanks cazz. Andy-hughes I rememeber the first question I asked on here.You answered it so well I will never forget it.Thanks xxx

[cazzz1975]

given that you are an escort who has sex why make the earlier comment?

"I still find it a bit discusting and I'm 18! I just don't like the thought of having a you know what pounding in and out of me.Sounds painful! "

[EngTeach]

Though i am child-free, i think ALL parents should have THE TAlk with their children. As a High School teacher I hear all kinds of things. I was cornered into teaching a health course one term and Oh boy...... I could not believe the mis-information and ideas the students had about sex.
I won't give details for fear of being banned, but my friends and I had some good laughs over it. It really is not funny, but I set them straight and was even thanked by some of them b/c they went to the school medical facility and got condoms and other birth control. One girl even spoke to her parents about being sexually active and her mother thanked me for encouraging her to be honest.

No matter if you are both uncomfortable families should discuss sex. IMHO

[Pippa68]

'they didn't know how to have sex they couldn't get pregnant in the first place.'

Oh, if only that was the way we were made. No population problem to contend with!

As John has said, it is instinct. Animals receive no sex education and manage to breed like *ahem* rabbits..

[andy-hughes]

Thanks sweet-teen, you have made my day!

A xx