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[jennyjoan]

I have ignored over the last year about 15 phonecalls and about 10 emails. Now I am getting photos of my "friend's" brother, grandchildren from England.

I don't want any communication with this friend who lives in England but in spite of the many hints she is still trying to contact me.

I think this will go on endlessly and now I know I will be forced to deal with it face to face with it as in actually telling her that I want the friendship over. I honestly don't think I should have to do this that the hints should be strong enough.

What do you think. I am writing this with nerves in my stomach as I know this friend will not take this lying down. Thanks

[anneasquith]

I think I would just ignore her correspondence ( yes I'm a coward ), but don't fret too much about this jj.

[woofgang]

It sounds to me like she never was a friend but she foisted herself on you and you were too nice to say no.....have been there except I am not nice. I would take the advice offered here, block her calls on mobile and landline and tell your email program to put her emails straight into you spam folder

[jennyjoan]

no am not fretting Anne - but couldn't believe another photo coming through this morning.

I'll keep on ignoring - another friend of mine here on this side is coming through something similar - so we in "cohorts" LOL

[anneasquith]

I think I would just ignore her correspondence ( yes I'm a coward ), but don't fret too much about this jj.

[jennyjoan]

Woof - the biggest word used here FOISTED - you couldn't have put it better. Thanks.

Thanks everyone for your replies.

[Hopkirk]

She's won the lottery and wants to share it with you.

[jennyjoan]

LOL @ Hoppy - she is a millionaire in real life and that's why cos she has FOISTED herself all over the world - and I mean world as in Australia etc. bye guys - off to do some cleaning x

[Prudie]

If you feel that strongly then tell her you don't want any more contact, don't you think you owe her that?
If this friend came on AB and gave her side of the story most on here would have you down as the bad guy.

[AuntLydia]

The problem is if you just ignore the situation there could always be a nagging sense she will land on you doorstep unannounced, and this will be even more embarrassing. I had a quite similar situation and a few months ago came clean by email and the sense of relief when I got the answer was incredible. Went something like this:

Me: (name) its been nice (lie but no feelings hurt) you coming to visit every Thursday but you have probably guessed by the emails and phone calls not answered , and the fact I've not been home the last three weeks, that I want to end our friendship. I don't want to go into the whys and wherefores, just ask nicely that you don't contact me again but at the same time wish you well. Please don't call email or text as I will not reply.
Her: by email. Well I'm sorry you feel that way I've gone out of my to come visit you to keep you company. If that's the way you feel then goodbye! ( then a bit more passive aggressive tripe)

The relief! I was ready to hide the next thursday her 'visiting' day but no, not a peep and nothing since.

[Caran]

I had a best friend for about thirty years. We phoned every day and met up every year. She trained to be a magistrate.thats when it started to go wrong. She felt she was better than me. Questioned everything I did. Compared my daughters degree with her daughters Andy made deriding comments. She criticised the newspapers I read, where I did my shopping, even the type of pencils I used!
I remember making a comment on Paul Potts, (remember him) you can tell how long ago this was. I said how good he was on that tv programme. She said you obviously know nothing about opera and music and to be honest everyone you know has not the slightest amount of intelligence!
That did it. I just said to her "this friendship is now over"
I never spoke to her again, I blocked her calls. She died about ten years ago. Of course I missed her as she had been like a sister to me for so long but I couldn't forgive her. I had to do it for my own sanity. I used come off the phone shaking.

[jennyjoan]

Ah Bless you Caran - thanks for sharing that - no more shaking for you yeah.

And thanks Lydia for that personal post.

[jennyjoan]

how do you I'm Connie ya rascal

[jennyjoan]

that's right Ill - Ill by name and Ill forgotten LOL

[naomi24]

Problems unattended to don't go away. I would tell her the friendship is over and wish her well for the future.