Goodness, Dahlia.....you've changed your tune from your cheery thread where you said this was such a nice site.....and thanked us all for being so welcoming to you.....though to be fair to you, you did warn us that you liked a good on-line grump....
I've skimmed your posts but will read properly in a while.....there seem to be so many answers you need so if my post is too long for here I'll email you..... ;-)