same sex marriages

[SCARFACE]

Take a deep breath, How do you perceive same sex marriages in our modern world? Don't you think it contradicts with our manners/ values , can we tolerate living in a world where you see gay couples walking around you?

I am straight, I want to know your opinion!

[pixiewize]

You�re right I did have to take a deep breath before writing a response. Attitudes like yours infuriate me. I think that the manners and values that need to be taught to the next generation are respect and understanding, no one person is better than the next, no matter what colour their skin is, what gender they are or what their sexuality is.  Who is to say we have to tolerate anything, if we lived in a world with less ignorance then gay relationships would not be a question of acceptance. No one questions it when a straight couple are seen walking around, I personally do not see the difference. At the end of the day you are questioning peoples sexual habits, something that is personal, how would you feel if someone chose to judge you based purely on your sex-life or your choice of partner.  As for same sex marriage I am in total support of anything that brings this country closer to the equality it claims to have.

[Hippy]

I am gay and I live surrounded by heterosexual couples and singles, married or otherwise. Exposure to heterosexual people does me no harm, and it certainly does not turn me heterosexual. The two dearest people in my life when I was growing up were a loving heterosexual couple, my mother and father, and that didn't change me either.

 

I don't think gay couples being together contradicts any laws, rules or mores of society. If it contradicts something in your "manners/values" then I think you need to think how valid those "manners/values" are in the wider society, outside the confines of your manners and values.

 

I have no desire to be tolerated. That makes it sound like being gay is something wrong, but for the sake of an easy life everyone will just put up with it. I don't tolerate heterosexuality, I accept it as part of the spectrum of sexuality in which we all find ourselves. Fortunately, by far the vast majority of people I encounter has no problem with what it perceives as my sexuality.

 

I do not wish to "marry" anyone, as that implies some sort of religious ceremony to which I am unable to subscribe. However, I am willing to make a profound bond, emotionally, materially, and legally with another human being. As I am a gay man that will almost certainly be with another gay man. Were I heterosexual, then it would be with another heterosexual person.

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[Greedyfly]

I know a lesbian married couple and I think its great I ahev no problem with same sex marriages - It is called the modern world for a reason. We are slowly wakin g up to the fact that we cannot stop people being gay or wanting to have the same rights and straight people. They deserve the same rights just as we do - they are no different.  The gay couple I mentioned I work with every day too - and I get on fantastic with them both. They are very well suited to each other and I am happy that they found that special someone worth marrying.

[Greedyfly]

Can I ask you a question - you do not have to reply: would you ever go out with or marry a bi-sexual person if they were suited to you?

[Scarlett]

10% of the world are gay- at least. We don't know why exactly, but I personally think it is of of nature's ways of controlling the population- i.e- not all people will reproduce in the conventional way. That aside, gay people are exactly the same as straight people and deserve exactly the same human rights and life experiences. If gay people want to get married, they should be allowed to. There should be no special rules or anything else. They are just two people who love each other and who want to be together. BLESS THEM. Their gender or sexuality makes no difference whatsoever- it is just love.

[bernardo]

Take a deep breath,

 

"Aaaaaaaahhhh...."

 

How do you perceive same sex marriages in our modern world?

 

OK.  They should be allowed on the same legal basis.

 

Don't you think it contradicts with our manners/ values,

 

No

 

can we tolerate [sic] living in a world where you see gay couples walking around you?

 

Yes

[krissy04]

If they are happy, then who cares???? im straight BTW..

[chrisbailey]

I think same sex marriage is a tough subject, because I've always seen 'getting married' as a religious thing (being joined by God and such as is said in the vows), and if we are to believe the Bible then homosexuality is wrong. I know there are unreligious weddings to be had (like in a registry office) but the term 'marriage' still implies religion to me.

Luckily, I don't believe the Bible. I don't see anything wrong with homosexuality and I would definitly support a 'legal union' for same sex couples.

I wouldn't have a problem seeing homosexual couples walking around together. I wouldn't mind them showing affection in public either (holding hands, kissing). Life is too short for judging people, and if two women or men are happy together then so let them live that way.

We're supposed to have equality. That should apply to all. We're lucky to live in a society where homosexuality already is accepted, and become more and more so. I saw Bridget Jones 2 tonight and there was a lesbian character in that. It's a part of life, and should not be ignored any longer. I for one will be teaching my children to accept everyone.

[AB Editor]

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I need not remind you that users offering homophobic opinions - or bigoted views of any kind - will be banned from TheAnswerbank.

[Scarlett]

But Ed- surely we have freedom of speech? And whilst I don't like bigots any more than the next person, some people, particularly religious ones, believe that homosexuality is intrinsically wrong in the eyes of God, and therefore they believe their opinion to be the right one. That would make them biggoted in our view, but to the millions of other religious people, we would be in the wrong. Surely save banning for the abusive, mindless comments, and let everyone have their say on here?

[SCARFACE]

baaaaaaaaaam! everybody I assume i'm religious, but I am not religious at all. Homosexuality doesn't appeal to me and that's my personal opinion and I asked for yours. I'm not putting up any laws or anything..as matter of fact, I see this phenomenon approaching me in a way that i needed to react. How can lesbians and gays multiply? I guess by cloning...we will be an extinct species on this earth.

Gays do not represent 10% of the population...whoever came up with that number

they're not even 0.1% and i have some statistics...

No, i would not marry a bisexual even if i'm attracted to her!

[FTVS]

I am a heterosexual married woman. I fully support the introduction of legislation to provde same sex couples with the same legal rights in a partnership as married couples. Certainly it seems to me that same sex couples shoudl have the right to be the legal next of kin to the other (shoudl they so choose). Personally i find it surprising that anyone would take exception to this. I can, perhaps, stretch to understand why some people might take exception to the idea of gay "marriage" on religious grounds (although i personally do not share their views) but a legally binding agreement between two people who will then be able make decision for each other in the event of the other being incapacitated or be the automatic beneficiary of their estate in the event of one party's death ? What is all the fuss about?  

[AB Editor]

To reiterate, in case of any confusion or misunderstanding: TheAnswerbank will not tolerate bigotry or the language of hate and prejudice in any form.

[arthurstace]

Scarface - when will you produce said figures for us, then?

[Hippy]

Yes, Scarface, I am waiting with the Kinsey Institute reports on male and female homosexuality, produced from a very large and credible statistical survey.

 

The number of people who have had a same-sex episode but who do not consider themselves as homosexual or lead an homosexual lifestyle is more than enough of a percentile to elect a President.

 

Those having solely homosexual relationships and considering themselves as homosexual and living homosexual lifestyles is just a little over 10%. So that proportion quoted by Scarlett is a minimum.

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[Roxy]

I'm sure you don't mean to Scarface, but you're coming across as a bit of an prejudice, ignorant idiot...sorry if i'm pointing out the obvious but even if you have a problem with same-sex marriage which is unfounded, EACH TO THEIR OWN!!!! Even if it "doesn't appeal" to you then get over it, same-sex couples aren't doing you any harm they're not trying to convert you! AS for you so-called "manners/values" the answer bank ed wouldn't like me to tell you where you can stick them

[SCARFACE]

I guess i was misintrepreted, I live around gay people and I very much appreciate their kindness. I do not hate at all, I just wanted to know other people's opinions and how they view homosexuality in our modern world! Please if you are gay, i don't intend to offend you, i just wanted to know others' opinions.

[Weaza_cfc]

I am just going to give my opinion *without reading all previous posts - apologies if i repeat points!*. I used to find this a very embarrassing subject, i didn't like to think about it. Then i went to secondary school. All girls. And i was taught music by the most fabulous teacher - everyones favourite, really funny. All round really popular. And she is married to my business studies teacher. My female business studies teacher. And nobody cares. I've never heard one "i'm not having a lesson with her - she's a les!" or such like. I don't see her as being any different really. I don't see her and think "lesbian". She's just my teacher. Why shouldn't she be in love, get married? What manners/values does it condradict exactly? I understand thst some feel it's wrong based on religious reasons, but surely God(s) "loves all his children" etc, whatever their sexuality.

I think a better question is can we tolerate living in a world where people are spoken of like criminals when all they have done is fallen in love?

[tracymort]

I see absolutely noting wrong in it.  There are so many bad things happening in our society today it's beyond me that people get angry about a loving relationshop between 2 people. So what if they are the same sex, they aren't hurting anyone and by denying themselves a relationship with someone they love just cos you don't like it is going to hurt them alot more than it would hurt someone prejudiced to see a gay marriage.