The truth about marriage....

[Bbbananas]

Men think their wives will never change - but they do.
Women hope their husbands will change - but they don't.

[ummmm]

I don't want Martin to change.

[ummmm]

That's true Red. I'm the first woman he's ever lived with. I think his Mothers nose is still a bit out of joint. She's a lovely woman though.

[Bbbananas]

I neither pamper nor control my son - he wouldn't mind the pampering, but no way on earth would he let me control him, and I admire him for that.

[pericat]

You're right red - it's ridiculous. Although I have to say my MIL was not like that - I don't think I appreciated her enough when she was around. And the first girl who comes along and wants him can have my son and hopefully knock some sense into him lol

[ummmm]

I dread to think what I'll be like. I'm bad enough with my cousins.

[Bbbananas]

Bl00dy hell hel, she sounds a right ratbag. I wouldn't like that.

[ummmm]

My MIL muse be secretly relieved I have to look after him now. He use to live here with 3 other lads. All p1ss heads....His Dad use to have to drag him out of bed in the morning and she had to come round and clean the house, do his washing etc. There's been many a time when she's came in and had to step over various bodies....lol.

[AB Editor]

From our friend Oscar:

"All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That's his."

[Bbbananas]

Jeez - as much as I love my mother.... I hope Mr Wilde is wrong on that one!!

[rowanwitch]

Trouble is we change them and then find them boring,
On the mother in law front my late MIL was wonderful, a strong outspoken creative lady who given 6 months to live managed to survive over 6 years, even in her last few months she was helping other patients and still running the family.... She raised five boys from two marriages, and still managed to educate herself and create wonderful freehand embroideries sh'e been gone 15 years and I still miss her more than I miss my ex husband

[AB Editor]

I feel it might be unavoidable Salla! I think Jung generally agrees; for men at least we are not old until about 45 - once we get there we "flip" and pretend to be wise old men.

Nonsense obviously.

Spare Ed

[rowanwitch]

Its probably true, no matter how hard I try people say I become more like my mother everyday, I can see that we might look alike but personality wise we are miles apart
I suspect it is just I am more like my mum than my sister is, so the similarity seems stronger when we are all together.

[Bbbananas]

I just know I am more like my dad in my personality and ways. I love my mum but she's a hypochondriacal bag of nerves, worries, anxious, frets... but she's loving and generous.

My dad is also loving and generous - but is far more laid-back and relaxed and thinks worrying is a waste of time - but if he does worry, he keeps it inside. Like me...

[mccfluff]

if i ever become like my mother please shoot me

and all the above reasons number 1000015789794 - 2589 why i'm never gettign married

[LoftyLottie]

My son doesn't like being pampered or controlled. He hasn't done from a young age. He is a very loving person and we love each other dearly and we are always their for each other if necessary - but he is his own person.

[4getmenot]

my blokes stepmum always looks out for him, not in a smothering way but is just always there for him, like a real mum which I think is nice as his mum left him when he was little