Clare - // I'm not sure that anyone who refers to transgender people's "needs and wants" as "unreasonable", or that the lack of tolerance they receive is only "supposed", is in any position to judge whether TTT is transphobic or not. //
You've been on the site six months, TTT has been here for ten years, and I've been here for twenty-three years, so I think I can safely say that I know more about what TTT thinks about many things than you do.
I'll give you unreasonable -
My wife is a director of an Education Trust overseeing seven primary schools.
Because one child of eight has decided to call himself 'trans', the school has had to lose its disabled toilet facilities to give him a toilet for his use alone, and a member of staff has to accompany him every time he uses it. Add to that the fact that the school is in the process of re-drafting every single policy it has, in order to accommodate they whims of a child with attention-seeking parents backing him up, and by any measure, I call that unreasonable.
The amount of fuss and noise made by the attention-seeking element of the trans community is directly inversely proportional to the amount of people actually affected by living in our society, and that is where the hostility is based.
It's not that a tiny minority are different, it's that they expect the entire majority to accommodate each and every unusual and inconvenient wish they have, and they make vast amounts of noise telling everyone.
Attention-seeking is an unattractive position for anyone to take, as is causing misery to a majority of people when there is really no need.
If the trans community want tolerance and understanding - and be in doubt, I absolutely believe that they are completely entitled to both, then they need to stop their infinitesimal minority from ensuring that they are all labelled as attention-seeking trouble-makers.
And a good place for you to start, would be accepting a view that is different from your own, even if it is from someone you had never heard of seven months ago, and accepting the backing of that view from someone who knows that individual a heck of a lot better than you do.