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Anto7 | 00:59 Fri 28th Jun 2013 | Society & Culture
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Chinese people respect their elderly parents.

Is it just the Chinese who care for their elders parents in old age?
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Of course not, many societies and races hold their elders in great respect - I know I do.
Your premise is a myth.
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Many societies do respect their elders, but I see many Europeans putting their elders into care.
I have never been in that situation, but have known many who have and believe me that decision is not taken lightly or as a matter of disrespect.
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It's a sad sad situation when some cultures disregard baby's, yet they revere their elders.
"Is it just the Chinese who care for their elders parents in old age? "

No no no...
Good morning Mamy - I am a great believer of the Chinese taking care of their elderly parents - I always believe when a mother nurtures her children until they get (children) old and when the mother gets sick - the children (if they are in the position) ie (living in same country etc) should nurture their mother - but it doesn't happen - There was one family whom I loved and their mother. There were 8 daughters - mother was a fantastic woman - a real lady and an independent one - I loved her - so I thought when she took Alzheimers - they should have shared responsibility in caring for her in their own homes sporadically (the lady in question - violent no - humbling - yes - childlike -yes - yet to this day never could understand them putting her into a home to die. Didn't happen to my mum. I can tell you however, I did shoulder the responsibility even though there 8 of us too and I worked full-time. She never went into a home - yes a hospital where she died.
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Thats very sad Connemmara.
If they can be admitted for free then they are. If it costs then only if they can afford it.
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Me too Steve.........but regardless of that, don't some cultures just cast aside their elderly?
Why is putting your parents into care disrespectful?


think you will find they don't always, too much of a generalisation
Fact is that many households rely on two incomes and can't afford not to work.

It's not disrespectful to put our elderly relatives into a care home as long as we make an effort to see them.
If I tried to move my Mum in, 'er indoors would move out.
We still have the mother in law living with us and wouldn't dream of putting her into a home. What we must also realise is that many houses and homes are just not suitable to have elderly folk living in them, it is often safer for them to be in a home, often due to peoples specific needs. I think in general we respect the elderly, I know I do.
I think there's two things here..respect in a general way and what families do in extremis. Having worked in the NHS with older people with all kinds of needs, and with their families, I can tell you its a "walk a mile in my shoes" thing. I would not presume to judge what other people do. Yes there are ungrateful children but there are also nightmare parents and also nightmare circumstances.
My mother used to say that she would much rather go into a home than live with me.

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I'm sure the majority of people who could afford to give up work and pay for all the adjustments to their properties would gladly care for their elderly.
Too long a sacrifice can make a stone of the heart.

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