Xmas On Your Own

[nailit]

Anyone here spend xmas on their own through choice?
Ive spent the last few xmas days at one of my sisters along with my mum and son. Previous to this my xmas's were spent with my (now) ex, her son, my son and assorted family members and friends. I know that I'm fortunate enough to have somewhere to go on xmas day, espescially since the rest of my family...inc my other sister...don't even talk to me. But somehow it all seems a bit trite. That's not to say that I'm not grateful, I am. But seriously just wanting to spend the day alone. My son usually just bu66ers off down his mates after dinner anyway.
Is it wrong to want to spend the day alone when you're fortunate enough to have an invite for the day?
Feel like I'm been ungrateful to the one family member (apart from my son and mum) that still speaks to me...

[jennyjoan]

No I have only my sista and myself on Xmas day and if she goes before me - no I will strongly advocate that I want to be on my own.

I know some friends will invite me but I also know that I would be like a sore thumb in the middle of their "Happy Families".

I do think I would like to help at a Soup Kitchen on Xmas Day then come home and enjoy the rest of it on my own again.

[pixie374]

No... but I know many people who genuinely would prefer to be on their own in their own home, but go from pressure from families. If I was on my own, I would do the same as jj.

[Mamyalynne]

Of course it isn't wrong to want to spend the day alone, if it makes you happy then it should please those who care about you too.

I have invites and am still considering what to do on the day itself, but there'll be no pressure.

[Traci66]

My husband passed away September 2016, I was inundated with invitations, really just wanted to be alone, nobody was having that, consequently spent a fairly awful day with daughters in laws, as that was where she was going. This year I will help daughter with lunch, but mostly spend it alone which is what I want.

[MallyJ]

I really don't like xmas and would love to spend the day on my own ....with a big Indian take away to reheat and plenty of coffee. I would not bother getting dressed and would happily keep my curtains closed and watch a whole day of rubbish tv. A long soak in the bath with a good book at some point would be bliss. There is nothing wrong at all with spending time on our own providing you want to. You do what you want to and if you can't manage xmas day on your own then aim to have Boxing day to yourself.

[tamborine]

My gkids want their pressys christmas eve so they can spend xmas elsewhere. Am reluctant to prep a day earlier with nowt on christmas day or boxing day. Think I’ll just post out cheques (saving gkids 2hr visiting jouney) & stay in my sloth.

[david small]

I always voluntarily worked Christmas and Boxing Day 12 hour shifts, just to be on my own. No Tv, no radio, no kids, no dinner. Loved it. Humbug.....

[Bathsheba]

I agree with MallyJ

Baths
x x x

[pixie374]

I did before children, David. I'm sure that if we have no small children in the family one year, it wouldn't be the same.

[tamaris]

I spend xmas alone most years of late. I dont particularly want to but I have no family to speak of unless I go to Australia and I dont want to do that long journey any more. This year I am helping out at the homeless shelter in Brighton.

[Smowball]

It’s your day. You do whatever pleases you. Plus I’ll say hi to you : ) x

[DTCwordfan]

//Plus I’ll say hi to you : ) x// AAAAAAAArrrrrgggh

Just teasing, Smow!

[-SharonA-]

It is not so much being alone. I just like to be in my own home! I've spent various xmases with various friends and family and I find I am unable to relax as they've got their white carpet (careful now), shoes off, another drink(she must be a lush!!) etc etc. No I'd rather stay home!!

[nailit]

Thanks for replies guys.
Smow, I'll look forward to that ;-)
Just don't want to be ungrateful to the one member of my family that still speaks to me, but I'd really like a xmas on my todd....
Just not the same without a family!

[DTCwordfan]

nailit, it comes down to how you handle being by yourself. Christmas is just another day - treat yourself to your favourite nibbles and hooch/vino and enjoy....if you need company, seriously, some voluntary time with the needed for lunches etc can be highly rewarding. Never done Xmas but Thanksgiving in the States was fun - and good for the kids to realise how well off they were.

[nailit]

DTC, I know exactly where you are coming from re: xmas lunches etc. Unfortunatly previous attempts at getting involved in such has resulted in crb checks been carried out b4 hand. I failed miserably :-(

[DTCwordfan]

can you put a few feelers out with the organisations that you have been involved with?

[pixie374]

They shouldn't be necessary, nailit, if you are working alongside others.

[nailit]

Nah, they shouldn't but they are Pix!
DTC ...//can you put a few feelers out with the organisations that you have been involved with?//
Not involved with anyone right now m8.

[emmie]

i have done many times, this year i have been invited to spend Christmas with a friend which i think i might do.