Well that's it.

[~max~]

I'm minus a friend, ad minus a dream. Told him how I felt, although not in so many words. Not good.
I'm devastated.
But now he won't let it go, and insists he wants to talk about it. I don't. What more is there to say.
That's it really.

[~max~]

Before anyone says anything, yes I know I'm pathetic for posting that on a website. Some people just don't have anyone to talk to, sorry.

[pastafreak]

Talk to him max.....if he is STILL your friend i think you owe him that

[~max~]

There is nothing to say hun. I'd rather keep what's left of my pride intact. Don't know what I'm gonna do now. No reason to stay here. I might as well go somewhere else. I don't know.

[pastafreak]

Did he say why he wanted to talk about it??.....I know i would talk because I don't let go of things that easily.. I have to know the whys and wherefors

[legend004]

max go to sleep and try to put it out of your mind.
treat it like a breakup.no use living a fantasy doll is there?a friendship may be salvageable , but if hes truly not interested in a relationship then you gotta let go.otherwise it will freak him out.time to move on .plenty fish plenty offers .start living for yourself rather than an unachievable dream.

take care .

even tho i know you dont like me.

im not all bad .

nite

[~max~]

He said he won't let it go and won't give me a choice. I don't want to see him though. I guess he doen't want to lose me as a friend. But that's not possible now, is it.

[legend004]

its possible
unless youre cuttin off nose to spite face
your call innit?

[pastafreak]

Leg is right if you realy feel that he is no longer a friend.....I just dont understand why he wants to talk about it....

[~max~]

I can't detach myself from i enough to talk about it anymore than I already have. There is no reasoning involved. I can't make myself stop loving him.

[lindapinda]

You're not a bit pathetic Max. It took a lot of courage to bring it out in the open. No matter what,he's prob completely confused at the minute. Don't make any hasty decisions yourself right now,but,i understand how horrible you feel.

[legend004]

obviously he wants to be friends.
but
and im no expert
sounds like max is taking the alll or nothing approach.
if thats to talk him round it will do opposite.

better to accept friends as before and move on

only my opinion

[legend004]

you cant make someone love you
thats certain.

remain friends

or you will regret it

[~max~]

I think he just doen't wanna let go of the friendship. We have been really close, he was coming over to mine 3 evenings a week at least, and i' d go see him in his shop, and we text at least ten a day. I guess that's hard to forget when you're on the other end.

[pastafreak]

Don't burn your bridges,hun.....then it is final.....let him have his say-but let it wait a bit til emotions have calmed down.

[~max~]

Yes, it's an all or nothiing situation. Pride, I guess. I can't be friends now. It's gonna be so damm hard, I have noone else.

[legend004]

seems you made more than a friendship of it .
he seems to want things the same
its just you thats got to straighten your head out

sounds like youve always been friends and you alone wanted more.
friends
and going out
totally different thing doll.

as i said treat it like a breakup where you remain friends.
unless you cant do that?

[~max~]

No I can't do that. I just wanna go away now.

[legend004]

well you can always calll someone if you gotta chat

but i dont think here helps
its too detached from reality


nite

[pastafreak]

max,honey...good friends are so,so hard to find-they are like goldust. Think VERY hard about what you want to do...and like I have said,DON'T make any rash descisions. Once they are made it is difficult to go back. Please sleep on it-take a few days to think.....your emotions are raw now and I am sure you feel embarrassed and emotionally exposed. remind yourself that he has NOT rejected you completely..having him as a friend may be what fate has decreed for you at this time.

[~max~]

Thank you Pasta, that was beautifully put.
But I seriously dont think I can face that one. there is nothing to make me stay here now. I just don't know. the thought of seeing him with someone else breaks my heart. I really do love him. I do.