T W A U The Chase, From Yesterday.....
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What Can I Say ?
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My cousins husband died in June, they had been married over 60 years, and have children , grandchildren. They lived a long way from me and I did not go to the funeral , but sent a card flowers etc and phoned her.
I thought that I should write to he before Xmas, but I am not sure what to put, can anybody please give me a few words or phrases ,that I could build on please.
I thought that I should write to he before Xmas, but I am not sure what to put, can anybody please give me a few words or phrases ,that I could build on please.
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I'd do the original 'poo sandwich' letter where you start off nice and bright, get the yukky stuff out of the way in the middle, and end nice and bright. Something like:- Dear Hername, I hope you are well, we are all (tell her about your goings on). I'm so sorry that this year has been so hard for you. I really regret not being able to come to his name's funeral and...
15:19 Fri 23rd Nov 2018
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I'd do the original 'poo sandwich' letter where you start off nice and bright, get the yukky stuff out of the way in the middle, and end nice and bright.
Something like:-
Dear Hername,
I hope you are well, we are all (tell her about your goings on). I'm so sorry that this year has been so hard for you. I really regret not being able to come to his name's funeral and can't imagine how hard things must have been for you but I hope you got the flowers and card and understand how very sorry we were that this has happened.
I really do hope that you are feeling better and that Christmas and the New Year brings you more happiness ( enquire about he family and her plans) and hope o see you sometimes next year.
Add in any relevant things etc as and when throughout, but usually I start and end condolences on a slightly brighter note and get the really sad aspect into the centre of the letter.
It's a difficult thing to try to write without knowing the people but i'm sure you can personalise it a lot. x
Something like:-
Dear Hername,
I hope you are well, we are all (tell her about your goings on). I'm so sorry that this year has been so hard for you. I really regret not being able to come to his name's funeral and can't imagine how hard things must have been for you but I hope you got the flowers and card and understand how very sorry we were that this has happened.
I really do hope that you are feeling better and that Christmas and the New Year brings you more happiness ( enquire about he family and her plans) and hope o see you sometimes next year.
Add in any relevant things etc as and when throughout, but usually I start and end condolences on a slightly brighter note and get the really sad aspect into the centre of the letter.
It's a difficult thing to try to write without knowing the people but i'm sure you can personalise it a lot. x
I would start off with how you still regret not being able to make it to the funeral (if you do) i would then go on to inform her about your recent life, maybe enquire about hers, i would write stuff that a reply isn't necessary to, so less questions more information, maybe say i hope you're doing well kind if thing.. I'd more update her of your life, say merry christmas happy new year, hoping it brings more positivity. Let her know you're there if need be etc..
Dont say anything forced, and try not to force a reply. Keep it laid back, especially if she is still in heavy morning over her husband (which i imagine she is ) Try not to dwell in any negativity so when she reads the message, it's more positive than melancholy
Dont say anything forced, and try not to force a reply. Keep it laid back, especially if she is still in heavy morning over her husband (which i imagine she is ) Try not to dwell in any negativity so when she reads the message, it's more positive than melancholy
I really like kval's poo sandwich. But, I am not sure I would mention the funeral. Flowers were sent, card and a phone call. That bit is dealt with. The funeral is not the person and you have already dealt with that.
I would be inclined to say something in the middle along the lines of "I know it is your first Christmas without Frank and I cannot being to imagine how sad you must feel. I remember how much he (loved this time of year/loved the Only Fools and Horses on the TV/thought that Christmas was such a waste of money) and it made me smile to think of him. I have such fond memories of ****"
A little sympathy, but kind rememberance is my view.
I would be inclined to say something in the middle along the lines of "I know it is your first Christmas without Frank and I cannot being to imagine how sad you must feel. I remember how much he (loved this time of year/loved the Only Fools and Horses on the TV/thought that Christmas was such a waste of money) and it made me smile to think of him. I have such fond memories of ****"
A little sympathy, but kind rememberance is my view.
Eleena.......death is commonplace to me, have seen famine , tragedies all my life and they have no effect on me particularly when they relate to someone that i had never known or even met.
I find it difficult to grieve even about someone close to me, so you see the question of writing to someone who has just died is difficult......and i don't and particularly on the Internet....so impersonal.
Yes Kvali's post 14.19 was superb, but she is after all an actress, so you see it was totally without feeling or emotion.....in other words it was meaningless.....it couldn't have been any other way.
I find it difficult to grieve even about someone close to me, so you see the question of writing to someone who has just died is difficult......and i don't and particularly on the Internet....so impersonal.
Yes Kvali's post 14.19 was superb, but she is after all an actress, so you see it was totally without feeling or emotion.....in other words it was meaningless.....it couldn't have been any other way.
