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firewatch | 15:00 Fri 13th Jan 2012 | ChatterBank
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What a day so far! got up late as madam didnt go to bed till 2:30 this morning, hubby stayed up with her but i went to bed (bout time he did a night shift!). I phoned him this morning at work and he said to take her for a walk in the field behind us to knacker her out for tonight. Yeah great idea its a quagmire and littered with dog Sugar, titch an i went over several times and she got so distressed she didnt want to walk. I couldnt carry her as i had hurt my shoulder falling, so a dog walker got titch to walk his dog for him which soon got her moving, god i love the help of strangers!hope your days havnt been as eventful!
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Have you thought about getting a routine and sticking to it?

It sounds like your household is ruled by a toddler.
you do need to be firmer about the routine, kids love routine, why wasnt she tired last night? most kids need quite a lot of sleep until they get a bit older.
Why on earth do you let her stay up so late, who's in charge?
when does she start nursery / preschool? thats going to be a real shock to her system if shes not got a good sleep pattern to start with
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she dosnt rule our house, and she has a good routine normally but last night she just was out of wack we dont know why. she gets up at 8:30 in the morning breakfast and dressed by 9:30 pop to the shops, be back by 12 for lunch then play/go for another walk tea at 4/4:30 then wind down for bath and bed at 6-7 then shes left to self settle with some music. however, shes been waking after an hour or so.
Your poor husband- did a toddler nightshift AND went to work?
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i didnt ask him to he volunteered! He dosnt usually stop up with her it usually down to me, i did offer to get up with her but he said he would do it.
She starts play group after easter, 3 mornings a week
Crazy thought...lol

firewatch...I'm not having a go...but you do only seem to post about 'madam' being up late. When you do mention her going down on time...the next day she doesn't. So it does read like she rules your house....

A toddler shouldn't be up at 2.30 unless they're sick...
Fire, I am going to be brutal. If she gets up, tell her to get back to bed. I mean TELL her, no, oh, dear, you poor thing etc etc. Just tell her. Do not pussy-foot around it.
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i tell her to go back to bed and im not interested but she keeps going, i want my evenings back as i am starting to make teddy bears like my nan as a form of therapy, i used to d a lot of crafts but not really picked a needle up since mims was born.
she needs to learn that some things are unacceptable otherwise you may struggle to control her when she is older. maybe getting her up earlier would be a good idea, after all she needs to get into the habit for nursery then school, not a lot earlier but 7.30 would be a good time.

she may be more tired at bedtime x
you have to stand your ground, she goes on and on because she knows you will relent eventually, if you dont relent she will stop nagging because she will know its futile.
She's a baby still. You don't tell her...you make her.

You are the adult. You make the rules. I said to you before...check out Joe Frost...follow someone elses guide. It'll be very hard for weeks...but stick to it and you'll have your evening back in a month...
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think i we will have make her get up time earlier in the morning, see if it works. she dosnt nap during the day either.
Is she in a cot or bed? Have you moved her too soon to a bed?

Give her a warm milky drink after a bath, read to her when she is in bed all snuggled down. Hold her hand after you'rve read a chapter whilst she snoozes.
Then get up and stay outside her room for 10 mins. If she gets up during that 10 mins, guide her back to bed.
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she was in a bed but reacted badly to it so put her back in the cot. Im strict with her it my husband who can be quite soft with her. will give everything suggested a go
Husband has to get up for work in the morning and you think he should stay up half the night with your restless child???

Wouldn't be happening in my house

One word.........routine
So how old is this "Madam"?
We follow a definite routine. I get Little Tiggs up at 6am and he's in bed at 7pm. He doesn't go to sleep straight away but plays with soft toys in his cot till he falls asleep. Then he doesn't wake up until 6. He also has a nap for 1.30 to 2 hours after his lunch. When I was on leave during Xmas we were getting up around 8 but went to bed a bit later but once I started waking him at 6am we got back into the routine quite quickly.

The only time he wakes during the night is if he's unwell and then I suffer during the day at work.

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