I'd really like to know where the saying 'A lover, not a fighter', comes from. I think it is only used for men and not women but I don't know the origin, whether it comes from a film or a play. Any help would be much appreciated...
I'd guess it's just an off-shoot of the slogan used by American hippies and anti-Vietnam War protesters in the 1960s, "Make love not war", rather than an original 'saying' in its own right.