Encouragment Needed Please

[Bathsheba]

to leave house today. OH gave my chemo hair a no4 with clippers last night, cos he thought a no1 which I asked for would be too extreme for me. Think he was right. Keep catching site of self in mirrors and thinking my son's here.
Dare I risk one of my wigs, or one of turbans? :)

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[dannyk13]

Whichever makes you feel better Baths

[scorpiojo]

Wig and take a turban in case you get too hot. Chin up, girl ;o) xx

[Bathsheba]

Thanks danny and jo.
Shall take me most of morning to decide. Think might ask a friend to come with :)

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[ummmm]

Go out as you are. I'm sure you look sound with short hair x

[murraymints]

Whatever you're happy with baths...xxx if it were me I think I might just go commando !

[anneasquith]

Oh definitely a turban, a colourful one, wear some nice jewellery and don't forget the lipstick :-) take care .x

[Bathsheba]

Thanks ummm, much appreciated :)

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[scorpiojo]

Take 3 photos of yourself...commando/wig/turban...that may help you decide :)

[Barmaid]

I'd agree with the commando look - and stand up tall and strong!

However, on a purely practical basis its chuffing cold out there so I might opt for a turban.

[Bathsheba]

Hi minty and anne.
Going commando won't happen, although to be honest it has taken 20 years off me ;)
Mucho make-up and nice big earrings whatever I decide ;)

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[Bathsheba]

...cold and damp, Barmaid. Shall worry about Genevieve or Lucy (yes, I am sad enough to give them names) going frizzy so turban it is :)

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[Peter Pedant]

whatever is the fashion at the Christie
lots of hat ideas from the ladies there

what about a tocque ?

if you have to go to Dept 42 - say mwah mwah from me ( the mad one ) they'll know which one I am - o and Dept 26 - I feel as tho it was my second home

and good luck

No 1 I agree would be a bit severe

[Bathsheba]

Careful now, O-G.

Yep Peter, only been in Dept 42 so far, and they are all lovely. Am next there on Wed next week, shall pass on your kisses ;)

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[ummmm]

When I go out I don't look at people, well obviously I do but not in the sense of studying them so I assume no one is looking at me either....

[Bathsheba]

Good thinking ummm, have you had CBT at any time, cos that's basically what it's all about ? ;)
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[andy-hughes]

Obviously my hair loss is nothing like as traumatic as yours Baths - it's simple hereditary baldness, but the psychological aspect is the same.

When you are conscious of something changing about the way you look, it is very easy to think that the world is as conscious of it as you are, and of course, you have to tell yourself that they are not.

An easy trap to fall into is the belief that everyone a) notices that you look different, as much as you do, and b) they care as much as you do, and of course, the reality is that they don't do either of those things.

It's an emotional sound barrier that you must go through, and then you will accept yourself, and know that everyone else does as well.

But these early days are the hardest of course.

Wearing a wig and taking a turban as back up is good advice, and be proud of your look to make yourself feel good, as indeed you should.

Let us know how you get on - we are all thinking of you.

[ummmm]

No...but I used to work in a psychiatric hospital :-)

[Bathsheba]

Aaww, thanks Andy, ...I'm fillin' up 'ere ;)

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[Smowball]

I bet you look fab Baths - do whatever feels right for you xx