Thoughtful Friends

[gness]

Today is the anniversary of my husband`s death. The week in hospital before he died was horrendous and I have very painful memories of what happened to him.
Yet today I feel happy. I have had cards, flowers and "thinking of you" messages from friends. Doesn`t thoughtfulness give you a lift?

[ummmm]

It certainly does xx

[Bumpkin_Clumber]

Stay happy Gness, You've helped me, now it's my turn to reciprocate by thinking of you...

[gness]

Thank you both.xx

[stokemaveric]

its special to have good friends hope you are ok gness...

[EvianBaby]

It is true that it's the thought that counts.

[Jumbo747]

Sending you all good wishes gness..........friends are precious.

[Mamyalynne]

gness it is the love and care from friends like that, that really helps you through. Have a happy day remembering all the joy and happiness. ((HUG))

Mamya ♥

[excelsior-1]

you have had the last year to get over the dreadful time of that last week, and the thoughtfulness of your friends has helped you get past the pain and move on - but not forget your loving husband. i am happy for you that this anniversary is not as painful as it might have been.
i was at my father's bedside in the last few days of his life, and he died as i was talking to him .. for weeks afterwards i was a mess, but like you i had friends who were there for me, and i eventually got through. now i spend the anniversary day at his memorial and look back on the good times in his life. please add my best wishes for you to those you have already

[tinkerbell23]

Glad you feel good today- im
Sure thats what hubby would have wanted xxxxxx big cuddle from me xxxx

[boxtops]

It does, gness - and we're thinking of bumpkin too, in his loss. Kindness is so important at times like this ♥

[DTCwordfan]

Absolutely, your OH would, I suspect, be really happy that you are moving on, fond memories, painful ones but I am guessing that the former by far outweighs the latter.

You could always tell him to stop scratching and eating his favourite snack - it's disturbing your opera of life.

[flump1]

Gness, I reckon you are spot on there with your sentiments. Glad you are feeling happy, it is what your husband would have wanted.

[gness]

Thank you all for the wishes, kisses and hugs. Made me a bit tearful as did putting red roses on his grave.
He died four years ago but the hospital inquiry and inquest took almost two years and certainly lengthened the grieving process.
Yes, he would want me to be happy. He always did and his last words to me as he died were funny.
Too cold outside today so am now wallpapering the dining room and remembering the "this will lead to divorce" banter when we decorated together.
And yes DT, I can still find things to tell him off for!

[Dee Sa]

my heart goes out to you
Dee

[gness]

Thank you Dee. Miss him, especially as he should be still here. Have great friends though, and lovely people on here.
I would sing, "I Will Survive," but with my voice I would soon be friendless and visited by the noise patrol from the council.

[Kiki-frog]

There are few things more precious than having friends who care. That has made me happy just reading it.

[gness]

Glad it`s lifted you too Kiki. I have been taken out every night this week to make sure I don`t dwell. When he knew he was dying he apologised for leaving me but said he was comforted by knowing I would be cared for by our friends. I hope it has made me more caring of them. Well, except the eejit who said my cooking was lousy!

[DTCwordfan]

well you shouldn't have served him that pie of rabbit's goolies, nettles, chilli and samphire then, gness..........

[gness]

Well I was happy DT. Now I`m laughing! Thank you.

[excelsior-1]

my apologies, i thought he passed away only last year, that is why i said you have had a year.

my best wishes are still with you