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Sexual Abuse
Are men becoming worse, or is it being reported more now?
From Hollywood, to the fashion industry, to sports, to Westminster, to television - in the past couple of years on an almost daily basis, we have been seen stories of men abusing their position - grooming, assaulting, raping, molesting and so on.
Is it because women are more likely to come forward (even those there are some who want them to be 'named and shamed' should their claim of assault/rape not be upheld), or something more insidious about men in the 21st century?
From Hollywood, to the fashion industry, to sports, to Westminster, to television - in the past couple of years on an almost daily basis, we have been seen stories of men abusing their position - grooming, assaulting, raping, molesting and so on.
Is it because women are more likely to come forward (even those there are some who want them to be 'named and shamed' should their claim of assault/rape not be upheld), or something more insidious about men in the 21st century?
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Minty....I fully accept that some of these claims may be spurious, but how do we know the difference between spurious and real ?
In the past, some women did complain....like in the case of Savile, but they weren't believed, or if they were, various forces made sure that any investigations were stopped or derailed ASAP.
The difference now is that people who have been abused will probably be listened to, and taken seriously.
We have moved on in a great way in recent years, and quite rightly so.
In the past, some women did complain....like in the case of Savile, but they weren't believed, or if they were, various forces made sure that any investigations were stopped or derailed ASAP.
The difference now is that people who have been abused will probably be listened to, and taken seriously.
We have moved on in a great way in recent years, and quite rightly so.
A lot of what is termed 'sexual abuse' is of such a minor nature , a hand on a shoulder or back that it would previously have passed without comment.
I remember a story from a year or so back. A German doctor was accused of sexual abuse by his long time secretary. When the evidence was examined it turned out that the 'abuse' consisted only of him kissing her on the cheek on the occasion of her 40th birthday. The case was instantly thrown out. But it was too late ,unable to face the shame , the doctor had already committed suicide.
I remember a story from a year or so back. A German doctor was accused of sexual abuse by his long time secretary. When the evidence was examined it turned out that the 'abuse' consisted only of him kissing her on the cheek on the occasion of her 40th birthday. The case was instantly thrown out. But it was too late ,unable to face the shame , the doctor had already committed suicide.
It depends on what is said and the manner in which it is said. Minty and me have a conversation going about a cupboard which if I started with someone else could be held to be offensive. I think if you are going to say or do anything risque then you must ensure that the other person shares your sense of humour, not doing so could lead to claims of abuse and so they are without the consent of the other person.
Good morning Minty XXOOXX
Good morning Minty XXOOXX
If a person does or says anything that is, in the recipients point of view, unwanted then any reasonable person should stop but sometimes a "sense of humour" allows some to think things are ok when they are not. I have rescued apprentice boys who have been forced to tears by women in the factory, this behaviour was tolerated in much the same way as men's behaviour reported recently.
