Could you adopt a Chardonnay?

B00 | 09:24 Mon 07th May 2012 | News

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http://www.dailymail....ystal-Chardonnay.html

Was reading this earlier, and I'd like to say that if ever I was serious about adopting a child, I wouldn't let a simple thing like their name prevent me from thinking about it. But after reading the horrific examples of Gemma-Mai, Courtney-Mai, Alexia-Mai, Lily-Mai, Shania-Rae further down the page, the snob in me came rushing to the fore and thought, "no no NO, I couldn't have a child of mine called that". It really is a social stigma isn't it being landed with a name so bad?

What's the solution? Going back to the days where the birth parents had no say in the upbringing of their child, therefore no say in their names?" Getting over our inbred snobbery for such names and thinking " a child, is a child, is a child" no matter what name they've been dumped with?

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Is this terminology racist?

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Frank97

Can i ask how old you were? Did you "know" your name?

I was only a few months old and no I didn't know my original name until last year, 45 years later.

Mick-Talbot

Although I agree with him ...... I can.t help thinking --Godric Quentin Nox-- actually wishes he was called Fred.

woofgang

I was only a few months old and no I didn't know my original name until last year, 45 years later

Thank you for answering. At that age i agree, you wouldn't have known or cared. My concern is for older children who do know their name and identify with it.

zebo

I believe that in New Zealand, people are legally prevented from using names from a prohibited list when registering a birth. Do we like that as an idea?

woofgang

I think they do that in France as well (or used to) IIRC if the parents couldn't provide an acceptable name, the registrar was empowered to choose one fro the list. Personally I think thats an abuse of power. Who is to say what is acceptable and what is not?

woofgang

from wikipedia
Only in 1993 were French parents given the freedom to name their child without any constraint whatsoever.[4 However, if the birth registrar thinks that the chosen names (alone or in association with the last name) may be detrimental to the child's interests, or to the right of other families to protect their own family name, the registrar may refer the matter to the local prosecutor, who may choose to refer the matter to the local court. The court may then refuse the chosen names. Such refusals are rare and mostly concern given names that may expose the child to mockery.]

NOX

I think the snob angle here is utterly crazy- I mean how far do you take it? You don't get many Duchesses called Tracy or Sharon for that matter and hardly anyone at Eaton has the monicker Dwayne or Tyler- but really who gives a stuff, and why is it so relevant? should we not be trying to break down class boundaries not take the mick out of what we percieve to be a social underclass- and what about Travellers too, how about all the kids named Valeria, Rosetta and Zenarria- do we rule out ethnic names too? I seriously can't get over that anyone would care two hoots what their lovely little adopted child was called- surely they should be just overjoyed to have them?

B00

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That's the way it should be Noxxy, and in an idea world it would be, but we don't live in an ideal world and it's not.

I can't help it, I hear a name that I perceive as "out there" and I have a (probably wrong) mental image of that person's parentage.

woofgang

Can is suggest that one way to make the world more ideal would be to tackle ones own prejudices first?

B00

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Yes you can woofy, and I do try to- honest!

woofgang

B00, :-)

shaneystar2

On my original birth certificate I was named Cynthia .A Cynthia I most definitely am not .
It was changed but I was far too young to know anything about it .
When I was given all the relevant info when I became older I was quite glad that I hadn't been lumbered with Cynthia :)

NOX

Well you never get a perfect world if people don't stand up and change the imperfections- things need challenging imho, especially snobbery- people fought long and hard and in some cases paid with their lives to ensure that the negative elements of the class system were demolished yet in recent years I've seen people I would consider to be working class usually taking the rise out of chav culture, and creating a social underclass. We all like to have a laugh and watch Devo etc, but when it starts affecting kids because of what they are called it's time to put a conscious stop to it in my opinion.

boxtops

That statistic about not being able to spell names rings true round here, that's how we get families whose kids are called ELLAWEEZ and MAXYMILLION....