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Bobbisox1 | 20:50 Wed 18th Nov 2020 | ChatterBank
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Forward gifted anything ?
I have a friend that does it all the time which is why I 'suggested ' we stopped buying one another for Christmas , she looks at the labels like M&S for example and takes them back for vouchers, I couldn't do this , you?
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Heard a funny story on the radio yesterday. Mum buys "horrible" vase as a present for her daughter (daughter's words not mine). Daughter keeps it for a while then puts it in a charity shop. Couple of weeks later mum sees it and buys it so daughter can have a matching pair!
11:40 Thu 19th Nov 2020
i thought forward gifting was giving something you to to someone else?
you got
No, I think it is deceitful. "Here is a load of old tat that someone gave me ages ago and I don`t want it so I`m going to give it to you and hopefully you might think that I actually put some thought into what I was buying you for Christmas"
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Yes that and the taking stuff back
Honestly, no I never have.
Never.
Whenever I gave my mother a present she would invariably say, "That's very nice. Did you keep the receipt?"
I have once taken an M&S gift back and exchanged it for vouchers, what’s the point of keeping something you really don’t like if you can get something else you do like? I’d be more than happy if someone I gave something to did the same too, why not?
I'm too much of a hoarder to engage in forward gifting. I know plenty of people who do it though. More than once a present I've received on my birthday in April has looked remarkably like a present that I'd sent in the opposite direction for Christmas ;-)

My friend used to have a more direct approach to the present she received. Everything she got for her birthday on a Friday would car booted on the Saturday, without fail!
Ridiculous tradition in my view the giving of gift just because its tradition other than for sprogs. Remember those bath sets that had two bath cubes and some other never used stuff in them? Always found their way to the next raffle and was always the last prize to be claimed. Take Martin Lewis' advice and stop wasting money.
I have regifted things if I know someone in my circle would love it, I have exchanged things in M& S etc I once handed a very expensive sweater back to the giver and said it was a wonderful thought but I know I will never wear it but I cherish the idea you thought I might. What gave me more pleasure was they kept it for themselves and had the joy of wearing something they would never have bought for their own use.
Rowan, but you would you give it as a present like you'd bought it for them?
Not in that case, I felt honesty would prevent them making the same expensive mistake again. Beige cashmere would never be my thing. You've met me. Do I come across as a beige woman?
I could have kept it and gifted it elsewhere. I keep notes of who gave what do I don't regift back into the same family.
At Christmas, after deciding , as a family, how much to spend all our names are put in a hat and the names are drawn to decide who buys for who and the recipient lets the payer know what they want.Works very well as no one receives something they don't want.
no i wouldn't dream of doing so
Constantly. There is nothing we want (apart from a time machine), so everything gets recycled to others, who hopefully will find joy in it. Anything left over (rare) goes to the charity shop.

Once, a bottle of wine (we're teetotal) we gave to a neighbour was given to us a couple of years later, by the neighbour. Wonder where it is now, like a message in a bottle...

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Why dont you just send them the vouchers in the first place and save them a journey.
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Or stop buying altogether as 'we' did
there you go Allen:
https://tinyurl.com/yyp7eam9
I dislike 'gifts' - things I would never buy myself and don't want. I'm difficult to buy for (I think most people are difficult to buy for) and gifts are just wasted on me. I realised that gifts are wasted on most people.
Many years ago I added up the cost of the gifts I bought and the value of the gifts I had received and realised it was a complete waste of their money and mine.
I told everyone that in future I would only buy gifts for under 18s and not to buy me anything. Big relief for me, and hopefully for them, too.

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